With my experience of Spirituality, Psychology, Hypnotherapy & Counseling; I personally feel that Spiritual Counseling is a Step Ahead of Psychological Counseling. Spiritual Counseling is comparatively more effective and powerful, hence I thought of sharing my ideas with the intention that more and more people should become Successful, Healthy and Happy and have Cordial Relations in their life.

These are purely my views and have no intention to hurt anyone sentiments.

This blog covers the following three dimensions:

1. Why & when do we need counseling?
2. The Psychological Perspective.
3. Spiritual Perspective.

Why & When do we need Counseling?

As we enter into our youth, our basic requirement is to become Successful and all our energies are focused towards becoming successful. We have to become financially independent. As we climb on the ladder of experience, we should grow from having Financial Security to Financial Freedom to Financial Abundance in life.

Two Steps to Success

Success is not a milestone but a continuous journey on the right path. There are only two steps to Success:

1. Take the right decisions by making the right choices at the right time in life.
2. Implement decision to continue moving on the path of Success, in the right direction.

For moving continuously on the right path of Success, you need to be sufficiently motivated, happy and energized.

Bottlenecks in the path of Success

Anything that reduces your motivation, happiness or energy level is a bottleneck in the path of Success. Because, even after making the right choices, it will not let you move on the path of Success freely.

Bottlenecks could be your fears, depression, anxiety, lack of confidence, defensive behavior, traumatic experience in life, spoiled relations with family or friends or at workplace, physical illness and many more.

If you are facing any of these bottlenecks in life, it is the right time for you to go for Counseling.

The Psychological Perspective

Sigmund Freud had made a great contribution in the field of Psychology. He is the founder of Psychoanalysis, a Clinical Method for treating psychopathology through dialogue between a patient and a Psychoanalyst.

Important Principal of Psychology

In Psychology, there is an important relationship between “Behavior”, “Personality” & “Environment”.

Our Behavior is dependent of our Personality & Environment.

“Environment” is external to us and is beyond our control.

“Theory of Personality” by Sigmund Freud

Freud gave the concept of Id, Ego & Superego.

In common language we can understand:

• Id as our basic Natural Instincts of seeking pleasure in life.
• Superego is our Morality or the moral values that we learn from our parents, elders, teachers and society so that we can adjust well with the society.
• Ego is the way to mediate or strike a balance between our Instincts/ pleasure seeking activities vis a vis the Moral Values we have learnt from the society.

Accordingly our Personality is developed.

Let us understand from an example:

Suppose you are a student and sitting with your friends in the college campus. You see your teacher rushing towards her class room, and while walking, she slips and falls down in front of you. What would you do?

• Natural Instinct might be to laugh.
• Moral Values will tell you that laughing is not good and will try to stop you from laughing.
• Ego will strike a balance between the two.

Some of you might burst into laughter while others might control the laughter & suppress their feelings.

Let us evaluate both the possibilities.

1. Those who laugh: They are giving more importance to their instincts as compared to their morality and hence they started laughing. They will not be considered as good students because their behavior is not normal or as per social norms. These students might enter into Guilt. Over a period of time, non acceptance by society together with the feeling of guilt will become the bottleneck in their path of Success.
2. Those who don’t laugh: They are giving more importance to Morality as compared to their natural instincts and therefore, are suppressing their feeling. Their behavior will be highly acceptable by the society and would be considered as good students.. However, this suppression of laughter coupled with other suppressed feelings over a period of time might result into unhappiness, lack of confidence that will act as bottleneck in their path of Success.

In either case, you are bound to be Unhappy and that unhappiness would become a bottleneck in the path of Success.

Conclusion of Psychological Perspective

The other is responsible for my behavior; for my unhappiness. That may be in the form of environment (which is not in my control) or through my personality which is a built by my elders during my nurture.

Till other will not change, I cannot change and hence I cannot be happy.

Spiritual Perspective

To understand the Spiritual Perspective, let us see the Four Noble Truths given by Gautam Buddha.

Four Noble Truths by Gautam Buddha

Gautam Buddha has given four Noble Truths. Noble truths means that they are eternal, universal for everyone without exception.

The four noble truths are as follows:

1.      The Truth of Suffering

Everyone’s life has sufferings. The reason of suffering may be different for different people. We have seen above, in Psychological Perspective as to how either of our behavior would lead to sufferings.

2.      The Truth of Cause of Suffering

Every suffering has a cause or a reason behind it. There is no suffering without a reason.

3.      The Truth of End of Suffering

The reason or cause of sufferings can be eliminated and the unconditional happiness can flow in life.

4.      The Truth of the path that leads to the end of Suffering

Gautam Buddha has given the Eight fold path that leads to end of suffering and brings happiness & enlightenment.

Conclusion of Spiritual Perspective

As per Spirituality, the others will not change. People, environment, circumstances etc. will always remain same; still we can become Happy here and now.

Why Spiritual Counseling is a step ahead of Psychological Counseling?

Since Psychology believes that other’s are responsible for my unhappiness and till others will not change, I cannot change therefore, through Psychological Counseling you can help you attain the state of normal happiness.

Some normal, acceptable level of unhappiness will always remain.

Where, Spirituality believes that other’s will not change and I can be happy here and now. Therefore, Spiritual counseling deals with the techniques as to how we can become happy irrespective of external factors.

An example to understand

We all are aware about Jesus who was full of blessings even for those who were crucifying him. He was saying, “O God! Please forgive them as they do not know what they are doing”.

In the spiritual history, he is not the only example. We can find many similar examples from Sufis, Gurus of  Sikh religion, Gautam Buddha and many others.

However, we have no example outside Spirituality, who was full of so much of unconditional happiness that he could even forgive his enemies.

“CONQUER THE SUCCESS” training is the right solution

Based on the learning from my life, I have designed a training Conquer The Success to help individuals to become Successful, Healthy, Happy & have Cordial Relations.

Conquer The Success Training has 6 modules. Each module is of 1 day.

• Module 1: Understanding Success & Happiness and move in the right direction.
• Module 2: How to take important decisions & make choices that lead us to Success. If we are not able to take the decisions, we are likely to enter into anxiety.
• Module 3: How to implement the decision. Because, planning followed by implementation leads to Success, else Depression.
• Module 4: How to keep your self Healthy.
• Module 5: How to keep cordial relations with family, friends & at workplace.
• Module 6: How to be happy, joyful & celebration in life through meditation. How to get rid of the negative emotions.

Please visit  Conquer The Success Training for more details about the training.

We also provide TRAINING, COUNSELING and BEHAVIOR THERAPIES. You may visit the respective web pages for more details.

Discussion Forum

Should you have any queries, please join our Discussion Forum and post your queries there. We shall take them up.

We invite you to attend Conquer The Success Training. I can assure you that these 6 days will transform your life and take it to new heights of Success & Happiness.

Wish you a life full of Success & Happiness.

Stay connected,

NOTE: MY EARLIER BLOGS ON SUCCESS & HAPPINESS 

1. Conquer The Success – For Success & Happiness
2. Meet Mr. Successful
3. Success & Happiness: Which is more important?
4. Blueprint of Success & Happiness
5. Why meditation is important for success & happiness
6. Taking The Right Decision
7. Add Wings to your Performance on Implementation of decisions.
8. Vicious Circle of Unhappiness
9. Happiness is the glue of Unity

You may see my other blogs on Conquer The Success Blogs.

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“Happiness is the glue of Unity” is the output of my analysis of the strained relationships; that I see as a counselor daily.

I would like to start with a small story (Unity is Strength) that our granny had told us when we were small.

The Story told by Granny

Once upon a time in a village there lived a farmer who had four sons. They were always quarreling with one another. The farmer tried his level best to bring them on the right path. But they never listened to the farmer and ignored his advice.

So the farmer was very worried and he thought, “How am I going to convince them that if they keep on quarreling with themselves, then others will take advantage of them”. They have to be together.

One day, he thought of an idea. He called his sons and asked them to bring a few sticks.  All four sons went around and brought some wooden sticks with them. When they brought those sticks, he tied them in one bundle and gave the bundle to each son and asked them to use their full strength and try to break it. They tried all their strength and power to break the bundle of sticks but could not break it at all. They returned the bundle to the farmer.

Now farmer opened the bundle and gave one stick each to his sons and asked them to break the stick. That was very easy and each of his sons could break the stick at once.

The sons realized what their father was trying to teach them.

They realized that if they keep on quarreling and are not united, then anyone can break them and take advantage of them but if they stay united and work together, they will be so strong like bundle of the sticks that nobody can break their unity and they will always prosper.

Are we really united?

In-spite of listening the story, are we really united? It is the burning question on the table.

Practicality appears to be much different, much ugly, and much hostile than the moral of the story.

Instead of experiencing “UNITY” in the relationships; it is seen that almost all the relations are strained. May they be the relations of husband-wife, or child-parent, or boss-subordinate or among peers, friends, neighbors, families or any relations for that matter.

The matter of surprise

It is surprising, that almost all of us would have heard this story and still we are we not united? This story is passing from one generation to another, since ages.

Either we have not understood the importance of UNITY, or we have understood it only to the level of our intellect and have not allowed it to go deep down in our blood & behavior.

The Irony of the fate

The irony of the fate is that the parents who themselves are not united; who are having strained relations even after listening this story; are repeating the same story to their kids; expecting them to understand the importance of unity and remain united with their brothers and sisters.

High Time for introspection.

When we have reached to a stage where every relation is strained or tensed, it is the high time to do an introspection as to why are we not united? Why our relation are becoming a reason for unhappiness, worries and tension; instead of happiness, love and care.

Though we all understand the importance of unity, then why are we lacking it?

My Analysis

I started to analyze it from the very basics.

If we forget our relatives, for the time being and let us bring the attention to ourselves, we will find that we are not single but a combination of mind, body, intellect and soul?

I put the first point for introspection:

Are we united at the level of our mind, body, intellect and soul?

Do we do what we think and think what we feel?

As a counselor, since many people come to me for counseling, I get an opportunity to observe it very closely in many people’s lives.

And the answer is a big NO?

Hypocrisy

Hypocrisy is something that deep seeded in our personality & behavior. What we feel for others, we do not show it to them.

I remember a small joke:

A small child asked the guests “Uncle Are you Bastard?” The guest was surprised and angry but controlled his feelings since he was a small child. So the guest asked, “Why are you asking this?” Then the child replies that his father was saying inside that this bastard has come once again.

But when the guest had come, his father had greeted him with open arms and behaved as if it is really an honor to have him here.

This hypocrisy (difference in thinking and behaving) is a reason of many psychosomatic diseases also.

How a person, who is not united in himself at the level of his mind, body, intellect and soul; can be united with other family members.

It is absolutely impossible.

The Solution

Hence, the solution is to start working on ourselves to have unity between our mind, body, intellect and our soul.

And once we ourselves are united, we will feel HAPPY.

Happiness is the glue of unity; that unites people

Only a HAPPY person can think of uniting with others.

Try to analyse from your own experiences:

When you are happy; what do you do?

When you are very happy, you have got a promotion or a birthday or a marriage ceremony; you throw a party, invite all your friends & relatives, celebrate and share your happiness with everyone.

You take initiative to meet other people. You like to be surrounded with people.

When you are sad, what do you do?

When there is an unpleasant event or incident in life; a setback or anything of that sort, you escape from others, cut off from the world. If the grief is intense, some people might enter into depression.

So when you are sad, you don’t like to meet people, you prefer to be in your own cocoon.

Conclusion of my Analysis

My conclusion, after an in-depth analysis, is:

• unity is important
• there is a meaning in granny’s story
• Happiness is the glue of unity.

A person who is happy in himself can only unite with others.

For happiness, first we have to work on the unity at the level of our mind, body, intellect and soul.

We have to remove Hypocrisy from our life, be honest, truthful and courageous.

Then the next step would be to get united with family & friends.

Happy relationships will become necessary ingredient of our life and we would feel very energetic and light as if we have got the wings to fly.

“CONQUER THE SUCCESS” training is the right solution

To help you unite at the level of mind, body, intellect and soul, I have designed a training Conquer The Success to help individuals to become SUCCESSFUL & HAPPY. Once you are happy, uniting with others will be a practical reality.

Conquer The Success Training has 6 modules. Each module is of 1 day.

• Module 1: Understanding Success & Happiness and move in the right direction.
• Module 2: How to take important decisions & make choices that lead us to Success. If we are not able to take the decisions, we are likely to enter into anxiety.
• Module 3: How to implement the decision. Because, planning followed by implementation leads to Success, else Depression.
• Module 4: How to keep your self Healthy.
• Module 5: How to keep cordial relations with family, friends & at workplace.
• Module 6: How to be happy, joyful & celebration in life through meditation. How to get rid of the negative emotions.

Please visit  Conquer The Success Training for more details about the training.

We also provide TRAINING, COUNSELING and BEHAVIOR THERAPIES. You may visit the respective web pages for more details.

Discussion Forum

Should you have any queries, please join our Discussion Forum and post your queries there. We shall take them up.

We invite you to attend Conquer The Success Training. I can assure you that these 6 days will transform your life and take it to new heights of Success & Happiness.

Wish you a life full of Success & Happiness.

Stay connected,

NOTE: MY EARLIER BLOGS ON SUCCESS & HAPPINESS 

1. Conquer The Success – For Success & Happiness
2. Meet Mr. Successful
3. Success & Happiness: Which is more important?
4. Blueprint of Success & Happiness
5. Why meditation is important for success & happiness
6. Taking The Right Decision
7. Add Wings to your Performance on Implementation of decisions.
8. Vicious Circle of Unhappiness

You may see my other blogs on Conquer The Success Blogs.

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Many-many happy wishes to you on Diwali and all the festivals associated with it.

In India, during this Diwali period, the festivity & celebration are at the peak. The life is full of joy, thrill & happiness.

As we all know, many rituals are attached with these series of festivals which are followed with lot of devotion, dedication and trust.

An Intellectual Question

Sometimes back, someone has sent a message on WhatsApp group that how come buying utensils or gold & silver ornaments, on a festival two days before Diwali (Called Dhanteras) can make us rich.

On the contrary, to buy these things we have to shell out our saving. So logically, instead of becoming rich, we will become poor by that much amount of money.

One of the answers that were posted to its reply was that you should not challenge the sentiments & belief attached with these rituals. If you do not want, do not follow; but do not send these types of posts on the group.

I was surprised not by the question but by the answer

I remember an old statement of Albert Einstein who has rightly said, “Science without Religion is lame and Religion without science is blind.”

So I thought to write this blog “Science behind Diwali rituals”. There are some important reasons to it:

1. Many people, especially the present generation, who are highly intellectual will not agree to follow the rituals if Science behind Diwali Rituals is not known. I am in support of the intellectual growth. However, it should be logically satisfied.
2. The way I see, Diwali is not only a festival which is celebrated only by certain people through certain rituals; but a way to live the life that can bring success, health, happiness, prosperity and cordial relations to everyone. I do not think, there is anyone who does not want any of these things in his life.
3. Conquer The Success, as you know, is to become Successful together with Health, Happiness & Cordial relations. Therefore, the “Science Behind Diwali Rituals” is one of the topics close to my heart and motivates me to write this blog.

The topic is long and it will lose its essence if I break it into different blogs. Therefore, it has become a little longer than usual.

But I am sure, those who want to achieve Success in their life together with health, happiness and cordial relations with family & friends; they will not find it long.

Anyway, it is much smaller as compared to a book.

However, for those who understand well by listening, my videos are attached at the end of this blog.

SCIENCE BEHIND DIWALI RITUALS

The Festivals Associated with Diwali

Diwali is a series of five days of five festivals.

1. Dhanteras: It is celebrated 2 days before Diwali.
2. Choti Diwali: One day before Diwali
3. Diwali: The Main Festival
4. Govardhan Pooja: Next day after Diwali
5. Bhai Dauj: Two Days after Diwali.

DAY 1: DHANTERAS

The series of festivals start with Dhanteras, by worshiping 4 Deities, in the following chronological order.

1. Lord Dhanvantari: The Deity of Health
2. Lord Yam: The Deity of Death
3. Goddess Lakshmi: The Deity of Wealth &  fortune
4. Lord Kuber: The Deity of Prosperity.

Each of them has a deep symbolic meaning for our overall wellness & growth in life.

Let us understand the science behind each of them:

Lord Dhanvantari for Health

Remembering the Lord of Health at the very beginning of the festival symbolizes that health is of primary importance.

It is an old saying “Health is Wealth”.

We are born healthy then how do we fall ill?

Two main reasons for falling sick are as below. Once we take care of them, we can live a healthy life.

1. Psychosomatic Diseases: 90% of the diseases are psychosomatic in nature that means the reason of disease is in the mind like stress, anxiety or depression; and its effects are manifested on the body.
   1. Rituals: We celebrate the festival for five long days, wear new clothes, make delicious food, buy gifts, distribute gifts to friends and family, get filled with positive hope by offering prayers for health, money & prosperity.
   2. Intellectual Logic: Same as we have seen before that if we spend on these items, we will shell out our saving and become poor by that much of amount.
   3. Psychological facts:
      1. Opposite emotions cannot stay in our mind at the same time. So when we are happy and celebrative; negative emotions like anxiety, depression, stress, unhappiness have to go out.
      2. Newness brings thrill in life and thrill is followed by happiness. When we do so many new things, it brings thrill followed by happiness in life.

• Law of Attraction: What we hope and desire with totality & trust, we start attracting and getting them in life. When we offer prayers for health, money etc. we are not only filled with hope but with lot of trust. Law of attraction starts working and makes our desires fulfilled.

2. Infectious Diseases: 10% of the diseases are said to be infectious like viral infection etc. Mosquitoes are the major carriers.
   1. Ritual: Thorough cleaning of the house before Diwali because Goddess Laksmi (Money) comes in a house which is clean
      1. Diwali comes immediately after the rainy season. During this time lot of mosquitoes, insects etc. are there and if there are any untouched corners or areas in the house; they stay and grow there. Therefore, cleaning the house in this season is good to save us from infectious diseases.
      2. On one hand, cleaning the house fills us with thrill, & hope of attracting more money, on the other hand saves us from the viral and other type of infections.

Lord Yam for Death

Next important thing is to get rid of our fears as they are negative emotions and are responsible for our psychosomatic diseases and a big hurdle to our happiness.

All fears are because of fear of Death

Somewhere deep down, we have a fear of Death and whatever event or person triggers that, we feel fear.

So if we can get rid of fear of death, eventually we will get rid of all our fears. That’s why we remember the Lord of Death.

• Ritual: If you lit a lamp in South, you will be saved from premature death; and hence we can get rid of fear of death.
• Logic: All our ancestors had lit the lamp but they have died; then how come we will not die.
• Science:
  • We are not only a body and mind but also the consciousness. When we do meditation, we experience that body and mind are not “me” but “mine”. Our true self is the very consciousness, which never dies. Body is evanescent. It is bound to end, bound to die. So, when we meditate; as a result our identity will change from body to consciousness; then we get an understanding that I cannot die.
  • The light of the lamp also has important significance. When you go deep in meditation, you will experience that one of the characteristics of our consciousness is Divine Light, a light that is illuminating in the entire consciousness. Lighting a lamp means to experience that divine light of our consciousness. Once we do that, our fear of death goes away.
  • Fear of death is a motivation to start meditation. You would have seen that only human being meditate and no other creature. That is because only human being is matured enough to realize the death.

Goddess Lakshmi & Lord Kuber for Wealth and Prosperity

After becoming healthy & getting rid of our fears, the next important thing is to have money and prosperity so that we can buy whatever we want; we become successful.

Therefore, we remember Goddess Lakshmi & Lord Kuber.

• Rituals: Buy new clothes for yourself and family; giving gifts to relatives, friends & family members; buy utensils, expensive articles like gold & silver jewelry; decorating the house; lighting candles; offering prayers.
• Science of Becoming rich: Another name of money is CURRENCY. Currency is something that has current; that flows. Why money is called currency, because if flows from one person to another.

Prosperity comes not only by having the money but by spending, by movement, by flow of currency.

Because of these rituals, it is estimated that India spends nearly 250 Billion rupees on Diwali shopping every year.

When everyone spends a little, may be for the sake of rituals, the money flows and the value of currency increases.

During Diwali, everything is sold, stating from expensive gold ornaments, to gifts to small value items like candles, calendars, decorative items.

That means that everyone gets the livelihood. Even a poor who is making the earthenware also gets livelihood. Everyone earns on Diwali because the currency is in flow.

You would be surprised to know that the countries where the culture is not of saving but of spending, the prosperity is coming. May it be countries of Europe or USA.

Those who have made the rituals knew the economics very well that let the money flow and prosperity is bound to come in life.

• Psychological reasons of giving gifts, we have already discussed above.

DAY 2: CHOTI DIWALI

On this day, some people take a holy dip in the holy Ganges River. Wear new clothes and visit their friends to give gifts and best wishes.

Since this is a day before Diwali, we eagerly wait for The Diwali Day and have lot of excitement.

Let us see the science behind each one of them.

Science Behind Holy Dip in holy river Ganga

Belief:  It is believed that taking a holy dip can absolve a person of his previous sins and he could be saved from going to hell.

Science: As a counselor, I have experienced many people suffering from problems or unhappiness because of guilt. You can also experience from your experiences that when you  have a feeling of guilt, you feel unhappy.

After fear, another strong negative emotion that is a reason of unhappiness and psychosomatic diseases is GUILT.

Taking a holy bath that absolves a person of his sins, is actually a technique to releasing the feeling of GUILT.

The moment we are free from guilt, we are filled with positivity, hope, happiness and trust.

Science Behind Eagerly waiting for Diwali

After getting rid of negative emotions like fear & guilt, the next step is to attract Happiness.

We get HAPPINESS when we achieve something. Getting a good result or visiting a place or meeting someone.

Therefore, happiness is very momentary, for a very short time. After we have achieved, the happiness is no longer experienced.

There cannot always be the opportunity of achieving something.

Then how to be with the positive emotions for a longer time?

Exultation, thrill, excitement, joy etc. are the positive feelings that stay with us for a long time. You would have experienced the thrill of upcoming weekend starts from “Thursday” itself,  the thrill you get a day before you have to go for a picnic, or a thrill a day before your childhood friend is coming, a thrill before meeting your loved one.

On Choti Diwali, we have decorated our house, got new clothes & gifts, and distributed the gifts and now waiting for the important day of Diwali when the celebration will be on the climax. This wait for positive events gives us exultation, a thrill, a joy which are positive emotions that can last for a long time.

DAY 3: DIWALI FESTIVAL

Now the long awaited Diwali has come. When the wait is over, the HAPPINESS is at its peak.

Belief

It is believed that Lord Ram was born in Ayodhya, a place in North India. When he was there, just because of his presence, there was happiness everywhere.

As he grows young, the circumstances take such a turn that he has to go on exile in jungle for 14 years. He had mixed good and bad experiences. Sometimes he was happy when he met the Saints and was unhappy when his wife was taken away by Ravan.

There he kills Ravan and returns back to Ayodhya.

Diwali is celebrated in the honor & celebration of returning of Lord Ram back to Ayodhya.

When Lord Ram returns back to Ayodhya, he was welcomed by light of the lamps and sound of the crackers. There was happiness all around.

Now let us see the science behind each one of them

Science behind “Lord Ram was born in Ayodhya and everyone was happy”

We are born happy.

Let us understand by an example.

We feel happy when we get money or power or respect or success or appreciation. Means, when we achieve something, we feel happy.

Many of us feel that our most happy period was our childhood.

You would be surprised that why were we happy when we were a child?

We had no money or anything that makes us happy now. On the contrary, we were dependent on parents and elders. And dependence gives unhappiness.

That was because we were connected with our consciousness and hence we were happy. We knew special type of Happiness that was without any reason or a cause.

It is represented by the belief that when Lord Ram was in Ayodhya, there was happiness all around.

Science behind “Lord Ram went to exile, WHEN HE GREW YOUNG”

Happiness is inside but success is outside.

For success, our consciousness needs to travel in the world. We go to school, college, get proper education, get a job and become capable to earn our livelihood.

Means we have to do some worldly affairs to become successful.

This fact is represented by the belief that when Lord Ram became young, he had to go to exile, away from Ayodhya.

Science behind “Lord Ram went to exile, TO JUNGLE”

Jungle is a representation of a place where there are no roads. It is grass everywhere and one has to find his own path. As he moves along, the path is built.

It represents that, for success, there are no pre-built paths or predefined roads to success. Everyone has to make his own path to success. As we proceed, the path is constructed.

Science Behind “Lord Ram had mixed good and bad experiences”

When our consciousness is in the external world and not connected to itself, then there are reasons of happiness. If things happen as per our wishes, we get happy and if not, we become unhappy.

Science Behind “Lord Ram kills Ravan and returns back to Ayodhya. He was welcomed by light of the lamps and sound of the crackers. There was happiness all around.”

After completing our work or activities that we have planned to become Successful in the world, we should return back to our own source, return back to our consciousness.

Why?

Because we have seen above that the HAPPINESS WITHOUT A REASON is only when we are connected to our consciousness, like a small child.

This returning to the source is possible through MEDITATION.

When we meditate, we get experience of our consciousness.

In deep meditation, we experience the divine light and divine sound. Which are represented by candle lights & sound of crackers when Lord Ram returned back to Ayodhya.

Through meditation, whenever we return back to our own consciousness, we are also welcome by divine light & divine sound. And our life gets full of Happiness, irrespective of the situations and circumstances in the external world. The HAPPINESS WITHOUT A REASON.

DAY 4: GOVARDHAN POOJA

This is a day after Diwali.

Ritual

I am sure you are aware about the story of Lord Krishna. How he lifted the Govardhan Parvat (a mountain) on his little finger tip and saved the entire village from the heavy rain that was due to the egoistic attitude of Lord Indr.

On this day, Govardhan Parvat is worshiped.

Then every person, every family contributes some or the other raw material to prepare the food. One will contribute vegetables; other will contribute milk and so on.

Then with this collected raw material, people will jointly cook the food for all the families of the society. Everyone sits together and enjoys the food. They celebrate and enjoy together.

The Science Behind these rituals

We have seen above that till the day of Diwali, through meditation, we learnt the art of getting connected with our consciousness and have experienced a special Happiness that is without any reason.

Now what is the next step?

When the clouds are full of water, it sheds water in the form of rain.

Similarly, when our happiness overflows, it wants to get distributed, it wants to get shared with others.

THIS OVERFLOWING HAPPINESS IS LOVE.

When we are happy, we love others. We love our neighbors, we love the rivers, we love the mountains, we love the animals, we love the entire nature.

The ritual of community gathering, common food, meeting people and worship of mountain are the symbol of a Happy People where the happiness is overflowing.

We give what we have

If we are happy, we will give love and if we are unhappy, we will give hatred.

Let us analyze our own lives. Are we giving love or hatred?

• At the level of society, we have polluted the air, polluted the water, polluted the land and made a hole in the ozone layer.
• The cases of eve teasing are increasing, suicides are increasing, rapes are increasing, matrimonial disputes are increasing, child parent relations are getting strained.
• Victims of stress, anxiety and depression are increasing, our fears are increasing.

These are few of the many evidences that show our level of happiness has come down drastically as compared to those times when we used to love not only other people but also the nature.

Question?

Many of you might have a question that after we have experienced happiness without a reason and our happiness is overflowing then why are we sharing it with our neighbors & nature and not with our family?

There is a deep routed symbolic message which is validated by Psychology also.

Where we have expectations, it is difficult to love.

Therefore, the following chronology is suggested to follow:

1. We have absolutely no expectation from the mountains, rivers, sun and nature. Therefore showering love on them is very easy. That should be the first target.
2. We have minimum expectations with our neighbors. Therefore, the second category where we can easily share love are our neighbors.

You would have experienced that you feel comfortable to discuss with strangers, a counselor but not with your family members.

DAY 5: BHAI DAUJ

This is the last day of the series of Diwali Festivals; the climax of the quality of our life.

This festival is celebrated as a symbol of love between brother and sister.

Science Behind Bhai Dauj

After showering the fountain of overflowing happiness in the form of love on nature and neighbors; the next step is the step to shower love on our family members; the close relatives.

As we have seen above that when we have expectations with someone, it is difficult to love them.

As we have most of the expectations from our family members hence it is most difficult and the last step in the chronology to shower love on them.

You might be surprised to know this, but as a counselor, I meet many people who are unhappy because of their loved ones.

Suggestion to improve your relationships

You cannot change the other. The other will remain the way he is.

Therefore, to improve not only the relationship but also your level of happiness, it is recommended to reduce your expectation with your family members.

CONCLUSION

We have seen above that Diwali is not only a bundle of rituals to be followed only by certain group of people for five days; but a way to improve the quality of life.

The chronology is also important

First we need to improve our health; clean our surroundings; get rid of negative emotions like fears and guilt through meditation; experience happiness without a reason; go to the external world to become successful; getting connected to our consciousness through meditation to regularly experience the happiness without a reason; then shower the overflowing happiness in the form of love on nature, neighbors and finally to our family members.

“CONQUER THE SUCCESS” training is on the same lines

We have designed a 6 days training Conquer The Success on the same lines as to how to become Successful together with health, happiness and cordial relations with family & friends.

No rituals, only very scientific understands and practical implementation tools.

Conquer The Success Training has 6 modules. Each module is of 1 day.

• Module 1: Understanding Success & Happiness and move in the right direction.
• Module 2: How to take important decisions & make choices that lead us to Success. If we are not able to take the decisions, we are likely to enter into anxiety.
• Module 3: How to implement the decision. Because, planning followed by implementation leads to Success, else Depression.
• Module 4: How to keep your self Healthy.
• Module 5: How to keep cordial relations with family, friends & at workplace.
• Module 6: How to be happy, joyful & celebration in life through meditation. How to get rid of the negative emotions.

Please visit  Conquer The Success Training for more details about the training.

We also provide TRAINING, COUNSELING and BEHAVIOR THERAPIES. You may visit the respective web pages for more details.

Discussion Forum

Should you have any queries, please join our Discussion Forum and post your queries there. We shall take them up.

We invite you to attend Conquer The Success Training. I can assure you that these 6 days will transform your life and take it to new heights of Success & Happiness.

Wish you a life full of Success & Happiness.

Stay connected,

NOTE: MY EARLIER BLOGS ON SUCCESS & HAPPINESS 

1. Conquer The Success – For Success & Happiness
2. Meet Mr. Successful
3. Success & Happiness: Which is more important?
4. Blueprint of Success & Happiness
5. Why meditation is important for success & happiness
6. Taking The Right Decision
7. Add Wings to your Performance on Implementation of decisions.
8. Vicious Circle on Unhappiness

You may see my other blogs on Conquer The Success Blogs.

With best regards,

Dr. Pankaj Gupta

CEO, Conquer The Success

99537 99435

My Videos on the same topic

You are invited to see my videos below for better understanding.

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Why to understand VICIOUS CIRCLE OF UNHAPPINESS, when we want happiness?

The very first question that might come to your mind is that we want happiness in our life then why to understand the vicious circle of unhappiness?

Let us try to understand from an example.

We all want to be healthy, but is there anything that can DIRECTLY be done for Health? The answer is NO. Because we are born healthy and there are reasons that make us unhealthy or sick. We can take actions to remove or cure illness and once it is cured, we become healthy automatically.

Similarly, we are born Happy and there are reasons for unhappiness. Nothing can directly be done for happiness. All actions can only be done to get rid of the very reasons of unhappiness and happiness flows automatically.

Happiness is like a spring and the reasons of unhappiness are the stones & rocks that are blocking the flow of the spring. We just have to remove the stones & rocks and the spring of happiness will start flowing automatically.

So, to be happy it is important to understand the VICIOUS CIRCLE OF UNHAPPINESS so that adequate actions are implemented in life to remove them. Happiness will flow on its own.

Vicious Circle of Unhappiness

Important Steps

1. We are born dependent and want to become financially independent. Start with having financial security in life and grow to financial freedom and then to financial abundance.
2. To achieve the big goal, we set some short term targets like we want good job, or want to make a house, or want to find a suitable partner for marriage, or want to purchase a new car, or score good marks, or get selected in competition, or go on a world tour or any other targets. These targets will be completed in future.
3. We have learning, knowledge and wisdom that come from the experiences of our past.
4. Based on our targets of the future and our experiences from the past; we make the strategy in the present and accordingly take the right decisions. Taking decision means to evaluate all the available choices and choose the best one out of them.
5. Next step is to make an action plan with responsibilities & time schedule.
6. Then we implement the actions, review them periodically.
7. Finally the result comes which may or may not be in line with our expectation or targets or goals.

If result is as per our expectations or targets

If the result is as per our expectations, as per our set targets, we feel happy.

If result is not as per our expectations

If the result is not as per our expectation, we feel unhappy.

This unhappiness might result into anxiety and depression.

When we are in Anxiety or depression, we lack motivation and hence we are not in the right frame of mind to implement the actions.

When implementation reduces, the possibility of the result not as per our expectation increases. And this gives rise to further anxiety and depression.

As a result the unhappiness increase as the time passes by.

You would have seen people, once they fail, it is very difficult for them to come out of that shock and back in action.

Whether we are successful or not, we get negative emotions

When we are Successful

We have seen above that when the result is as per our expectations, we become successful and feel happy.

When we are successful then following emotions trigger:

1. Fear of losing what we have achieved. We get so much attached with people or things that are in our possession that there is a constant fear of losing them.
2. Greed to getting more and more. When we buy a new car it gives us happiness but very soon we do not derive any happiness from it and get a feeling of getting a better one, even though there is no need.

Even we are successful, the moment these emotions grip us, we start feeling UNHAPPY.

When we are not Successful

In case the result is not as per our expectations, we are not successful.

There is a high probability of not becoming successful because it is not only our efforts and action that bring result, but a lot of other contributory factors that are not in our control.

When we are not successful then the following emotions trigger:

1. Anyone, whom we feel, is responsible for our failure, we get Angry.
2. If we ourselves are responsible for not becoming successful, we get a feeling of guilt.
3. Those who have become successful, we get a feeling of jealousy.
4. This jealousy, sometimes, grows to the level of hatred.

If we are not successful, we are gripped with these negative emotions and become unhappy.

Negative Emotions are a reason of many diseases

You might be aware about Psychosomatic diseases. They are those diseases which have the roots in our mind and the manifestation is on the body, in the form of disease.

Let us understand by an example.

Suppose you had a hot argument with one of your friends during the day. When you will reach your bed in the night, you will get many thoughts related to that. “He should not have done that; I have been so good to him but he is so mean and rude; I will teach him a lesson” etc. etc.

Because of these thoughts running in your mind, you will not be able to get proper sleep. If there is no proper sleep, the next day you will not feel fresh, you might also have indigestion or constipation or acidity.

This indigestion, constipation, acidity, lack of sleep etc. will cause various another diseases like High Blood Pressure, Diabetes, Overweight, Gastric problems, gout, ulcers, tumors even cancer.

These diseases are known as Psychosomatic diseases, as they have origin in mind (thoughts because of arguments with friends) but they are manifested on body in the form of diseases.

You will be surprised to know that nearly 90% of the diseases today, are Psychosomatic in nature.

Now we take medicines and these medicines have their side effect.

To cure these side effects, we need more medicines.

You can analyze from your life experiences that as the age grows, our baggage of unhappiness & negative emotions grows heavier and heavier and we get sick.

Nowadays many people above the age of 35 years have to take regular medicines for insomnia, BP, diabetes, antacid etc. As the age grows the number of medicines per day increases.

AN IMPORTANT QUESTION

Is there a way out or a solution to become Successful & Happy without affecting our health.

“CONQUER THE SUCCESS” training is the right solution

After understanding the VICIOUS CIRCLE OF UNHAPPINESS from my own life experiences, I have designed a training Conquer The Success to help individuals to come out of this VICIOUS CIRCLE OF UNHAPPINESS.

Conquer The Success Training has 6 modules. Each module is of 1 day.

• Module 1: Understanding Success & Happiness and move in the right direction.
• Module 2: How to take important decisions & make choices that lead us to Success. If we are not able to take the decisions, we are likely to enter into anxiety.
• Module 3: How to implement the decision. Because, planning followed by implementation leads to Success, else Depression.
• Module 4: How to keep your self Healthy.
• Module 5: How to keep cordial relations with family, friends & at workplace.
• Module 6: How to be happy, joyful & celebration in life through meditation. How to get rid of the negative emotions.

Please visit  Conquer The Success Training for more details about the training.

We also provide TRAINING, COUNSELING and BEHAVIOR THERAPIES. You may visit the respective web pages for more details.

Discussion Forum

Should you have any queries, please join our Discussion Forum and post your queries there. We shall take them up.

We invite you to attend Conquer The Success Training. I can assure you that these 6 days will transform your life and take it to new heights of Success & Happiness.

Wish you a life full of Success & Happiness.

Stay connected,

NOTE: MY EARLIER BLOGS ON SUCCESS & HAPPINESS 

1. Conquer The Success – For Success & Happiness
2. Meet Mr. Successful
3. Success & Happiness: Which is more important?
4. Blueprint of Success & Happiness
5. Why meditation is important for success & happiness
6. Taking The Right Decision
7. Add Wings to your Performance on Implementation of decisions.

You may see my other blogs on Conquer The Success Blogs.

With best regards,

Dr. Pankaj Gupta

CEO, Conquer The Success

99537 99435

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If unhappiness, stress, anxiety, depression, suicides etc. are increasing in the world, one of the major reasons I feel, is the reducing popularity of meditation.

I have over 25 years of professional experience at Senior Management Positions and around 12 years of meditation experience under the guidance of Osho. I have experienced both the phases in my life i.e. before I learnt meditation and after that and I see a noticeable contrast.

Whatever I have learnt & experience, I shall be sharing in this blog.

Before we proceed further, a little recap from my earlier blogs on Success & Happiness shall be useful.

Recap from my earlier blogs

1.  Success & Happiness: Which is More Important?

• Both Success & Happiness are equally important in life and one without the other would lead to an incomplete life.
• Happiness is our ultimate need. Whatever we do in our life, the ultimate purpose is to get happiness in life.
• Continual increase in Happiness is Success

2. Blueprint of Success & Happiness

• We have various needs that satisfies the ultimate need of Happiness.
• Our needs can be classified into 7 categories: 1. Physiological Needs; 2. Need of Sense Organs & sex need; 3. Safety & Security Needs; 4. Love Needs; 5. Belongingness Needs; 6. Self Esteem Needs; and 7. Liberation Needs.
• To satisfy these needs we earn money, make house, make family, become part of society or club, polish our skills, go to picnic etc.
• Each need is associated with each chakra.
• If all the categories of needs are satisfied, then we can experience eternal Happiness. If any of the category is missed out or ignored, then our happiness & success will be momentary.

Why Meditation is Important for Success & Happiness

As earning money, making house etc. satisfies our Safety & Security needs  that are associated with our Solar Plexus chakra; similarly Meditation satisfies our Liberation Needs that are associated with our Crown Chakra.

Let us try to understand from our experience.

Those people who do not have sufficient money or resources or good job etc. they are not happy. For them, it is very logical to think that they will be happy one day when they will have sufficient resources to satisfy all their needs.

You will be surprised to know that in the recent few years, since the richness & prosperity has increased; it is observed that even those people who have everything are still not happy.

I have experienced it as a counselor. Some of my clients are very rich and shared with me that they have everything that money could buy on this earth, they also have a nice & loving family; still a feeling of emptiness, unhappiness, an unknown fear is there. They can’t express it in words, cannot find a logical reason for their unhappiness, but it is there.

This happiness is because the Crown chakra needs i.e. Liberation Needs are not taken care of. Therefore, in spite of satisfying the 6 category of needs, we still have a feeling of unhappiness.

The reason of unhappiness if Liberation Needs are not satisfied

The following are the reasons of unhappiness, if Liberation Needs are not satisfied:

1. Expectation or Desires
2. Anger
3. Greed
4. Attachment
5. Jealousy
6. Grudge or Hatred

Saints call them as six enemies in the path of our liberation.

Let us try to understand from our life.

We feel happy when we get money or power or position or name or respect or success or something that we desire. This means that there is a reason for our happiness.

If I ask you a question, “When were you most Happy in your life?” Many of us would say when we were a small kid.

It is surprising that we were most happy when we were a kid but at that time we neither had money nor position nor anything that are listed above. In-fact, we were dependent on our parents and elders.

Have you ever thought about it that why were you most happy as a kid?

It is because at that time we did not have any of the above six enemies (Desires, Anger, Greed, Attachment, Jealousy or Hatred). If our needs like food etc. were satisfied we were happy.

We were experiencing  happiness which was without any reason. Saints call this happiness as Bliss.

How meditation helps to Satisfy Liberation Needs

Normally we have a strong association or identification with our body and mind. We feel that we are body and mind.

All our desires & expectations are to satisfy our physical or emotional needs.

When we do meditation, we start experiencing that our identity is with the consciousness and body and mind are like our assets.

More we get identified with the consciousness, our desires & expectations starts to reduce.

Once desires and expectations starts to reduce all other enemies like anger, greed, attachment, jealousy & hatred starts to reduce.

In this manner our Liberation needs start getting satisfied.

And once all the categories of needs get satisfied, we can experience eternal happiness.

“Conquer The Success” Training is designed to help you to learn to satisfy all 7 categories of needs

Conquer The Success Training has 6 modules. Each module is of 1 day.

• Module 1: Understanding Success & Happiness and move in the right direction.
• Module 2: How to take important decisions & make choices that lead us to Success.
• Module 3: How to implement the decision. Because, planning followed by implementation leads to Success, else Depression.
• Module 4: How to keep your self Healthy.
• Module 5: How to keep cordial relations with family, friends & at workplace.
• Module 6: How to be happy, joyful & celebration in life through meditation.

Please visit  Conquer The Success Training for more details about the training.

We also provide TRAINING, COUNSELING and BEHAVIOR THERAPIES. You may visit the respective web pages for more details.

Should you have any queries, please join our Discussion Forum and post your queries there. We shall take them up.

We invite you to attend Conquer The Success Training. I can assure you that these 6 days will transform your life and take it to new heights of Success & Happiness.

Wish you a life full of Success & Happiness.

Stay connected,

With best regards,

Dr. Pankaj Gupta

CEO, Conquer The Success

99537 99435

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Recap from the last blog Success & Happiness: Which is More Important?

Before proceeding further, a quick recap from my last blog would be useful to understand the Blueprint of Success & Happiness.

In the last blog, we have understood:

1. Both Success & Happiness are equally important in life and one without the other would lead to an incomplete life.
2. Happiness is our ultimate need. Whatever we do in our life, the ultimate purpose is to get happiness in life.
3. Continual increase in Happiness is Success

There are various needs which when fulfilled gives us Success. And every fulfilled need ultimately gives us Happiness.

Therefore, it is important to classify & categorize various needs that gives us Success & Happiness.

Classification of Needs & the Associated Chakra

We can broadly classify all our needs from childhood to the old age in following 7 categories. Each of these needs is associated with a specific Chakra.

When these needs are satisfied, it gives us Success & Happiness.

Chakras are the energy centers in the human body which are believed to be in the subtle energy body. However, Chakras are not part of our physical body.

I will soon write a seperate blog for better understanding  of Chakras.

1. Physiological Needs. Associated Chakra – Root Chakra

The Root Chakra is associated with basic survival needs or physiological needs like food, water & air.

When we get good food, water & air. We feel happy, otherwise will be  a cause of our unhappiness.

2. Need of Sense Organs. Associated Chakra – Sacral Chakra

The Sacral Chakra is associated with our sense organs and takes care of the needs of our sense organs & our sex needs.

To satisfy this need, we love to go to picnic & sight seeing places and are attracted towards opposite gender.

When we eat tasty food, touch a pleasant soft flower, see a beautiful object or nature, hear a pleasant music or chirping of birds, smell a nice fragrance of a flower and satisfy our sex needs, we feel happy. Otherwise, will be a cause of unhappiness.

3. Safety & Security Needs. Associated Chakra – Solar Plexus Chakra

The Solar Plexus Chakra or Naval Chakra is associated with our safety & security and takes care of safety & security needs.

To satisfy this need, we earn money, make house and keep healthy body.

When we feel safe & secure, have no risk or danger to our life i.e. when we have sufficient money, a good house, good health etc. we feel happy. Otherwise, will be a cause of unhappiness.

4. Love Needs. Associated Chakra – Heart Chakra

The Heart Chakra is associated with our love needs.

To satisfy this need, we make families.

When we have someone to love and when we are sure that someone loves me i.e. a happy family, we get a meaning in our life and feel happy. Otherwise, will be a cause of unhappiness.

5. Belongingness Needs. Associated Chakra – Throat Chakra

The Throat Chakra is associated with our belongingness needs.

To satisfy this need, we make friends, take clubs membership, become part of society, religion etc.

When we meet our friends; attend social, religious gatherings, we feel happy. Otherwise, will be a cause of unhappiness.

6. Self Esteem Needs. Associated Chakra – Third Eye Chakra

The Third Eye Chakra is associated with our self esteem needs.

To satisfy this need, we explore our potential, polish our skills, get good education, excel in studies, sports, stage etc.

When we are recognized & respected by others as a special person, may be because of our knowledge or performance in sports, on stage or in studies, we feel happy. Otherwise, will be a cause of unhappiness.

7. Liberation Needs. Associated Chakra – Crown Chakra

The Crown Chakra is associated with our liberation needs.

To satisfy this need, we do meditation and experience our self as an extension of the infinite cosmic energy. Be one with the universe.

When we achieve ultimate freedom in life, freedom from all bondage, we feel happy. When we get freedom from negativity like desires, expectation, fears, anger, attachments, guilt, jealousy, feeling of revenge etc. we feel happy. Otherwise, will be a cause of unhappiness.

How to achieve the state of Ultimate Success & Happiness?

I can say by my experience, that we can attain the ultimate state of ETERNAL Success & Happiness in life if and only if all the needs of our seven chakras are satisfied.

Why are we unhappy?

We are unhappy because in order to fulfill the needs of a few chakras, we ignore the needs of other chakras.

For example, to satisfy our Safety & Security needs, we spend too much time to earn money, build a good house that we start ignoring our family & friends. As as result our Love Needs & Belongingness Needs remain unsatisfied and become a cause of our unhappiness.

If you do a little self introspection, you will be able to identify that which of the above needs you are ignoring and that is the very cause of your unhappiness.

In general, most of the people are ignoring Libration Needs i.e. no experience of meditation; which is a big reason of unhappiness, especially for those above 40 years of age. As we get sexual maturity at the age of 14, similarly at the age of 42 we should get spiritual maturity; which unfortunately is missing in most of us.

“Conquer The Success” training is designed to help you to learn to satisfy all above needs

Please visit the web-page  Conquer The Success Training for more details about the training.

Conquer The Success Training has 6 modules. Each module is of 1 day.

• Module 1: How to take important decisions & make choices that lead us to Success.
• Module 2: How to implement the decision. Because, planning followed by implementation leads to Success, else Depression.
• Module 3: Understanding Success & move in the right direction.
• Module 4: How to keep your self Healthy.
• Module 5: How to keep cordial relations with family, friends & at workplace.
• Module 6: How to be happy, joyful & celebration in life.

We also provide TRAINING, COUNSELING and BEHAVIOR THERAPIES. You may visit the respective web pages for more details.

Should you have any queries, please join our Discussion Forum and post your queries there. We shall take them up.

We invite you to attend Conquer The Success Training. I can assure you that these 6 days will transform your life and take it to new heights of Success & Happiness.

Wish you a life full of Success & Happiness.

Stay connected,

With best regards,

Dr. Pankaj Gupta

CEO, Conquer The Success

99537 99435

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“Success” & “Happy” are two most searched words on internet. That makes sense because we all, directly or indirectly, are in search of Success & Happiness in life.

Our life is the best teacher, provided we have the art of reading the book of life i.e. to analyse & learn from the experiences of our life.

Before we try to answer the question “Which is More Important out of Success & Happiness” let us try to understand from our life experiences, what Success & Happiness are.

What is SUCCESS?

Some Definitions from the net

Many people have defined Success in many different ways. A few of the definitions which I could gather from the net are:

• Accomplishment of an aim or a purpose is Success.
• Achievement of action within a specific period of time or within specific parameters is Success.
• Completing an objective is Success.
• When your signature transforms into an autograph is Success..
• A lifetime of personal fulfillment is Success.
• Success is being able to go to bed each night with your soul at peace.
• Success is the sum of small efforts, repeated day in and day out.
• Success is how high you bounce when you hit the bottom.

Understanding Success from our life experiences

If we analyze our life, we would observe that Success is not always the same. From cradle to graveyard, as our life progresses, our needs change and so does the definition of Success for us.

• At the age of 4, not to urinate in pants is Success.
• At the age of 8, to know way back home is Success.
• At the age of 15 year, to get good marks in 10^th exams and choose the right stream for further studies is Success.
• At the age of 17, to get good marks in 12^th Board exams is Success.
• At the age of 18, to get a Driving License is Success.
• At the age of 21, to graduate from University is Success.
• At the age of 23, to get an earning is Success.
• At the age of 30, to be a family man is Success.
• At the age of 35, to make money is Success.
• At the age of 45, to maintain appearance of a young man/ lady is Success
• At the age of 50, to provide good education to your children is Success
• At the age of 60, to live without disease is Success
• At the age of 70, not to be burden on anyone is Success.
• At the age of 75, not to urinate in pants is Success.

Defining Success from our life experiences

So we can define SUCCESS as:

“Fulfillment of our Needs” is Success.

What are our Needs?

Let us do a small Activity.

Step 1: Identify one single need that is most important for you at this point of time. A need around which your whole thought process, your present life is hovering around.

Write it down on a piece of paper.

You might have identified your present need as getting money, buying a new house or a new car, getting a good job, getting a promotion, finding a good life partner, getting married, scoring good marks in exams, selection in competitive exams, making secure future for your child, giving your child the best education, going on a world tour, polish your skills or any other.

Step 2: Now, once you have noted down the present need, ask yourself a question “What will I achieve if this need is fulfilled?”

And right the answer on a piece of paper.

Step 3: Keep repeating Step 2 till you keep getting the answer.

Once you reach to a stage when you could not find any answer, stop.

Example

Suppose your present need is to get a job.

Now ask the question, “What will I achieve if this need is fulfilled?”

May be your answer is that you will get money.

Repeat the question –>  May be money will give you a new car –> Car will give you status in society –> Status in the society will give you HAPPINESS.

Now if you continue asking the question, “What will I achieve if I get Happiness?”

You will not be able to find any answer to it.

When I conduct this activity during my Training Workshops, invariably everyone ends on HAPPINESS.

What is Happiness?

Now after completing the above activity, it is easy to define Happiness.

We can say that:

“Happiness is our Ultimate Need”.

Whatever we may do, we do only for Happiness.

From a superficial level, it might appear as if there are different and many needs, but in the core we are only in search of Happiness.

Redefining SUCCESS

Above we have defined Success as:

Fulfillment of our Needs is Success.

And we have understood that Happiness is our ultimate need.

So, we can redefine Success as

“Continual Increase in Happiness” is Success.

Back to the first Question: Which is more Important out of Success & Happiness

Happiness is our ultimate need and Success is to ensure that Happiness grows every day.

Success & Happiness both are equally important.

They are like two wings of the bird called life. If both the wings are healthy then it knows no boundaries and flies to the infinite heights of Success & Happiness. However, if any of the wings gets damaged, the bird would die.

If my today is Happier than yesterday, and I live today in such a manner that my tomorrow will be happier than today; it means I am SUCCESSFUL.

The Next Blog

It is now important to understand various needs which ultimately give me Happiness.

Since this blog has already become quite long, I will take up this topic in detail, in my next blog.

Conquer The Success Training

“Conquer The Success” is aimed to help you become Successful together with Happiness, Health & Cordial Relations. Please visit the web-page  Conquer The Success Training for more details about the concept.

Conquer The Success Training has 6 modules. Each module is of 1 day.

• Module 1: How to take important decisions & make choices that lead us to Success.
• Module 2: How to implement the decision. Because, planning followed by implementation leads to Success, else Depression.
• Module 3: Understanding Success & move in the right direction.
• Module 4: How to keep your self Healthy.
• Module 5: How to keep cordial relations with family, friends & at workplace.
• Module 6: How to be happy, joyful & celebration in life.

You may visit our website Conquer The Success for more details regarding Training, Counseling & Behavior Therapies.

Should you have any queries, please join our Discussion Forum and post your queries there. We shall take them up.

Wish you a life full of Success & Happiness.

Stay connected,

With best regards,

Dr. Pankaj Gupta

CEO, Conquer The Success

99537 99435

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Yesterday, while walking along the roadside, I happened to meet Mr. Successful.

Out of his busy schedule, he was kind enough to give me a few minutes of his precious time.

I asked him, “Mr. SUCCESSFUL, I also want to become successful in my life. Could you give me a few tips?”

The secrets of success that he shared with me, I am sharing with you.

He said:

• I have 3 B’s of Success.
  • Bald, Belly & Binoculars (Specs).
• I got first heart attack when I was not even 40 years old.
• I take sleeping pills regularly.
• Twice a week I visit my Counselor.
• My wife can give me divorce any time.
• I have seen my children growing horizontally. (Only while sleeping).
• I am privileged to have High BP, Diabetes & Constipation and take regular medicines.
• I am overweight and my digestion is not so good.
• And last, but most important….. I can afford Jolly’s & Munna Bhai’s .
  • Means I can afford the best advocates & doctors of the town.

After giving me his valuable guidance, he went away.

But I was lost in deep thoughts. In fact, I got afraid of SUCCESS.

Disturbing thoughts were constantly hovering over my mind ….

Is The Success Really So Expensive? 

Do I really want to become successful at this cost?

Do I want my children to become SUCCESSFUL at this cost?

Friends,

Success is very expensive

With a little insight, you can find Mr. Successful within yourself.

Try to analyse your life.

At what cost we became Successful in life? Our relations with our spouse & children got strained; our health got deteriorated and we do not know when were we really happy?

Most of our hard earned money is spent either in the hospitals or in courts or both. And we a proud satisfaction, that we can afford the best doctor or the best advocate.

Are we not wasting our life to earn the livelihood ?

An Important Question that bothered me for long

Can there be a SUCCESS that does not cost me my health, my family and my happiness ?

The Answer: CONQUER THE SUCCESS

By the grace of my Masters, blessings of God, I could achieve that very Success for which I do not have to pay the cost. I can say with full confidence now

“Whatever may happen in my life, my Happiness is unshakable. It is eternal.”

After achieving that very success, now I am on a mission to help those individuals who want to be Successful in their life without compromising on Health, Happiness & Family Relations through Training, Counseling & Behavior Therapy.

Based on all the learning from my Masters & experiences of my life, I have conceptualized Conquer The Success that includes all the three dimensions: TRAINING, COUNSELING & BEHAVIOR THERAPY.

Details about Conquer The Success

Conquer the success is a concept based on the fact that “we are always bigger than our success”.

We will become successful but are not ready to pay that big cost to it. Therefore, I say, we will CONQUER THE SUCCESS. It has to be ours without paying any cost to it.

Conquer The Success Training

We have a special Conquer The Success training which has 6 modules. Each module is of 1 day.

• Module 1: How to take important decisions & make choices that lead us to Success.
• Module 2: How to implement the decision. Because, planning followed by implementation leads to Success, else Depression.
• Module 3: Understanding Success & move in the right direction.
• Module 4: How to keep your self Healthy.
• Module 5: How to keep cordial relations with family, friends & at workplace.
• Module 6: How to be happy, joyful & celebration in life.

You may visit our website Conquer The Success for more details regarding Training, Counseling & Behavior Therapies.

Should you have any queries, please join our Discussion Forum and post your queries there. We shall take them up.

I also invite you to see the video below to have more insight about Conquer The Success.

Wish you a life full of Success & Happiness.

Stay connected,

With best regards,

Dr. Pankaj Gupta

CEO, Conquer The Success

99537 99435

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