A Quick Recap

We can classify our mind into two categories:

Conscious Mind

It is normally 5 – 10% of the total mind and is responsible of thinking, analyses, logic etc.

Sub – Conscious Mind

It is normally 90 – 95% of the size and contains all our emotions, feeling, habits, values, fears etc.

Before understanding Hypnosis, we need to understand two normal states i.e when we are Awake and when we are in Sleep.

Normal States of our Consciousness

Generally we are in two states i.e. either we are “Awake” or “Sleep”.

When we are AWAKE

Our conscious mind is active and in control. Our subconscious mind is also active. Means all information passes through our conscious mind and gets validated by it, before reaching to our subconscious mind.

When we are in SLEEP

Our conscious mind is inactive. Our subconscious mind is active and takes the control.

Even when we are sleeping, all our involuntary functions like digestion, respiration, blood circulation etc are active. Even in sleep, if someone calls our name, we get alert.

What is Hypnosis?

In Hypnosis, our Conscious mind is Active but gives the control to the Subconscious mind.

Therefore, Hypnosis is defined as an Artificially Induced, Altered state of Consciousness, Resembling Sleep characterized by Heightened Suggestibility and Receptivity to direction.

Let us understand every word of it in more detail.

Artificially Induced

As we have seen above, there are two natural states (Awake & Sleep).  The state of Hypnosis is Artificially Induced by self or by an expert Hypnotherapist.

Altered State of Consciousness

We have seen that when we are awake, conscious mind is active and in control. When we are in sleep, the Conscious mind becomes inactive and gives the control to the Subconscious mind. However, the Subconscious mind is always active.

In Hypnosis, the Conscious Mind is Alert but gives the control to the Subconscious mind.

So we can say Hypnosis is a state which is neither awake nor sleep. Or we can say Hypnosis is a state when we are partly awake and partly sleep.

Let us understand by an example.

We have learnt in my earlier blog Understanding Mind, that we can assume our Conscious Mind to be like the Head of an Organization, and the Subconscious mind as all the employees of the organization.

When the organization is new and the procedures and policies are not yet finalized, the Head of the Organization has to be involved in each and every activity of the organization.

But what happens when the procedures and policies of the organization are finalized, departments are made, activities of each department are documented. In this case, the Head of the Organization is available but does not interfere in every activity of the organization.

The organization runs without his interference. The adequate delegation of authority and power has been done. Means the control of the Head is transferred to the respective employees and the Head is also available in the organization.

Similarly, when we are sure that the other person will not harm us; when we have trust in him then our Conscious mind, even though it is active, looses the control or rather transfers the control to the Subconscious Mind.

Coming back to the above example, let us assume if some malpractice starts to happen in the organization or someone tries to break the rules; the Head of the Organization will immediately take the control and take the necessary action against the culprit.

It is important to understand here that the Head of the Organization has only transferred the control (Delegated the Authority) and not lost the control.

Similarly, if someone has the trust on the Hypnotherapist and Hypnotherapist tries to give some suggestion which is against the value system of the person; that person’s Conscious mind will automatically take the control back from Subconscious mind and the person will immediately come out of Hypnosis.

All Hypnosis is Self Hypnosis

So it will not be an exaggeration if we say that ALL HYPNOSIS IS SELF HYPNOSIS. No one can hypnotize you against your own will and even during hypnosis, he cannot give any suggestion against your value systems. So Hypnosis is very safe and the person being hypnotized is always in control.

Resembling Sleep

We have seen that hypnosis is not exactly sleep but it resembles sleep, as the control is with the Subconscious mind and the Conscious Mind is active.

Heightened Suggestibility And Receptivity To Direction

We have understood in my earlier blog that our Subconscious mind is not logical. It does not doubt. So during hypnosis, when the control is with the Subconscious Mind, the suggestions being given by the Hypnotherapist to the person, gets directly registered in the Subconscious Mind without the interference of the Conscious mind.

And we also know that subconscious mind is around 95% of the size. So once it accepts the suggestions, the habits are formed.

So we can say that during hypnosis, the person has heightened suggestibility and receptivity to the directions.

So it is easy to understand now that Hypnosis is an artificially induced, altered state of consciousness, resembling sleep characterized by heightened suggestibility and receptivity to direction.

We can also say that “Direct communication with the Subconscious mind” is Hypnosis.

Another way to look at it is: “Programming the subconscious mind” is Hypnosis.

Types of Hypnosis

There are broadly two types of Hypnosis:

1. Self Hypnosis (Auto Hypnosis)

When we ourselves give suggestions to our Subconscious mind, it is known as Self Hypnosis or Auto Hypnosis.

This technique is effective to change your own habits. It is also advised as a follow up or reinforcement during the two hypnotherapy sessions by the professional Hypnotherapist.

Since some part of the conscious mind is always active to give the suggestions to the subconscious mind, therefore it is not as effective as being done by a Professional Hypnotherapist. Still it finds lot of use and application. It is slow but effective.

2. By Professional

When we are hypnotized by the Professional and he implants suggestions in our subconscious mind. This process is very deep acting, effective and fast. This is because when the instructions are being given by the professional, our Conscious mind need not have any control and can completely relax.

Hypnotherapy

When Hypnosis is applied for therapeutic use, it is known as Hypnotherapy.

We will come up with more details on Hypnotherapy in coming blogs.

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1. Conscious Mind
2. Sub-Conscious Mind. It is also known as Unconscious Mind.

Both have different functions.

Conscious Mind

The Conscious Mind is believed to be of around 5 – 10% size of our mind. It is logical and analytical.

It helps us to review, analyze and take decisions which are good for us. It is connected to the sense organs and gets data from them. What we see from our eyes; or what we hear from our ears; or what we taste from our tongue; or what we feel from our skin; or what we smell through our nose – all this data goes to our conscious mind. The conscious mind processes/ analyses the data and decides what is good for us.

Analysis by Conscious Mind

The analysis by Conscious mind is generally done by asking 1H + 8W (How, What, When, Why, Which, Where, Who, Whom, Whose). You can also remember it by One Husband having Eight Wives.

Let us take an example. If someone says that if you jump from the top of a high-rise building, you will surely become successful in our life.

Will you jump?

Absolutely not, because you know for sure that there is absolutely no correlation between “jumping from high-rise building” and “becoming Successful in life”. This very understanding that there is no correlation comes from our Conscious mind. With this input, your conscious mind will take a decision to ignore this message because it is not good for you.

Characteristics of Conscious mind

1. It is like Head of an Organization or the Leader of a team.
2. Since it is very small in size (only around 5%) hence it has very limited abilities.
3. Like the head of an organization, it is logical, analytical and is a decision maker. It takes all the decisions which are good for us.
4. It is like a serial processor. It can only handle one thing at a time. It is our common experience that we can only focus on one thing at a time. Remember when you were learning car driving, it was difficult to keep focus on clutch, accelerator, gear, steering wheel and the traffic simultaneously.
5. It has a short term memory. The data which it validates to be correct and beneficial for us, sends to the sub-conscious mind for permanent storage. We will know more about our Sub-Conscious mind in the next topic.
6. It is the creature of a habit. If we need to change any habit, we first need to be logically convinced by the benefits of the new habit and understand it properly. It is like the leader has to be convinced if any decision is to be implemented by the team. Only then the habit formation is possible. This logical convincing and understanding is done by our Conscious mind.

Sub-Conscious Mind

After doing the adequate analysis of the data received through our sense organs, when our Conscious Minds finds that the information is good and relevant for us, it allows sending that information to our Subconscious mind. All the information is stored in Subconscious mind in the form of Holographic Images.

Subconscious mind is like Storehouse

The Subconscious mind is a storehouse of all our memories, emotions, conditioning and experiences. It is believed to be of around 90-95% of the size. All our fears, phobias and traumas etc. are also stored in our subconscious mind. All our habits are part of subconscious mind. All non voluntary functions of our body like respiration, digestion, blood circulation, healing etc are also controlled by our subconscious mind.

Characteristics of Sub-Conscious Mind

If we assume our Conscious Mind to be like a Head of an Organization, then the Subconscious mind can be assumed to be like all the employees of the organization. There are various departments each having many employees working together.

For example, after the policies and procedures of the organization are set and approved by the Head of the Organization, the finance department will work parallel on its own, purchase department will work parallel on its own, and marketing will also work parallel and so on.

Now with this understanding, we can list down the characteristics of the Sub Conscious Mind.

1. It is like the entire team of an organization.
2. It is very powerful as it is very big. Around 95% of the size.
3. As a team of employees, it reacts to the commands of the Conscious Mind.
4. It is like a parallel processor. It can do many things at the same time. We have experienced that we can walk to our home, sing a song and enjoy the weather – all at the same time. Because in none of these activities, we need to focus. They all are part of our habit.
5. It acts very quickly.
6. It is emotional.
7. It does not have any logic. Therefore, it does not understand humor or sarcasm.
8. The language of subconscious mind is images/ pictures.

Summary

We can summarize that our Mind has two faculties:

1. Conscious Mind — It is our thinking ability. All the thoughts  are there.

2. Sub-Conscious Mind — All our feelings are there.

I hope you would have had a fair understanding and clarity about our mind. We would be coming up with more blogs on the topic.

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The Common Man’s Understanding about Anxiety

Anxiety is a feeling of nervousness or worry or fear or any other type of uneasiness that we experience when we have to take a decision.

Why?

Because we have to take the decision in present and its correctness will only be validated in the future. Since we want to get the best result from that decision; the anxiety surrounds us. While taking a decision in present, we expect a sort of guarantee that it is the best decision and will surely yield the best desired result.

But who will guarantee this? How can we get the guarantee?

Since there is no practical possibility of getting a guarantee of success by any decision in present; we experience a fear or uneasiness known as Anxiety.

What is the meaning of “Taking Decision”

“Taking Decision” means to make choices. To choose ONLY ONE option at a time, out of so many available options. As soon as we choose one options, it automatically closes the doors of all other options.

Common situations when we face Anxiety

For better understanding, let us see a few examples of situations where we normally encounter Anxiety.

1. While choosing the stream or subjects for further education: All students face anxiety when they have to choose subjects for further studies. Whether should I go with Science or commerce or humanities? Which will give me a better job? Which stream has the maximum opportunities available?
2. While choosing the career. Which career will give me more money, more job surety & more opportunities?
3. After graduation, whether should I go for higher studies or go for a job?
4. While getting a job.
5. While choosing the life partner.
6. While purchasing a car.
7. Any other situation when we have to take a decision means to make a choice.

Anxiety is more when options are more

Over the years, there have a phenomenal increase in the options available in almost all dimensions of life. Whether they are cars, or clothes or shoes or any other commodity for that matter, the variety has increased manifold. Many new career options have come up in the recent past and many more are coming.

One perspective is that it is good to have more and more options.

But, on the other hand more the options, more difficult it becomes to make a choice. This results into Anxiety.

You can analyze from your experience that over the years our level of Anxiety has increased. Our level of anxiety is more than that of our parents as they had comparatively less options to choose from. Similarly, the next generation is having more Anxiety than us.

Learning from Edison’s life

Before proceeding further with the topic, I would like to share an story from Thomas A. Edison’s life who had probably done the maximum inventions including the famous Light Bulb.

While inventing the the Light Bulb, Edison was working with his team of scientists who were doing experiments & research work. Every day they used to try something new but unfortunately they continuously failed.

Surprisingly, every day Edison used to start a new experiment with same energy, same hope and same zeal. One day, after multiple incidences of failure, one of his juniors asked that how is it possible that every day you start with a same hope & energy, in-spite of so many failures.

Edison replied;

I have not failed 700 times. I have not failed once. I have succeeded in proving that those 700 ways will not work. When I have eliminated the ways that will not work, I will find the way that will work.

Do you think, a positive person like Edison can experience Anxiety at all in his life?

It’s our perspective that makes us anxious, that make us fearful.

Factors on which the outcome or the result depends

Result depends on two factors:

1. The controlled Factors: Those factors which are very much in our control. We can do something about them. We can take some actions to satisfy those factors.
2. The Uncontrolled Factors: Those factors which are absolutely not in our control. Nothing can be done about them.

Let us understand by an example

Suppose you want sunlight in your room.

1. The Controlled Factors are to remove the curtains and open all the doors & windows of the room.

Is there a guarantee that if you remove the curtains and open the windows; the sunlight will come in your room.

What if, it is a cloudy day? What if it is night time? What if it is raining?

In these circumstances, the sunlight will not enter into your room even you do your best to remove the curtains and open the windows.

These factors are known as UNCONTROLLED FACTORS.

Even though there are many uncontrolled factors; but at least this much is sure or GUARANTEED that if you do not remove the curtains and open the doors & windows, the sunlight will not come.

To increase the probability of getting the best result, you have to do your best towards the CONTROLLED FACTORS.

Steps to overcome Anxiety

Now with this background understanding, it is very easy to list down the steps to overcome anxiety.

1. Accept to your deepest core that there are no guarantees in life. There is no possibility to know in present whether the decision we are taking today will lead to the desired result or not.
2. Work on all the controlled factors: List down all the controlled factors; make a plan and implement all the necessary actions.
3. List down and be aware of the uncontrolled factors: Identify the uncontrolled factors or risks.
4. Identify your own passion, abilities and personality type before making any choice: Before going for choosing the right career, education stream or life partner first know about yourself; your personality type; your interests etc.
5. Keep reviewing: Review the progress of the controlled actions and modify the plan or identify new actions; if necessary.
6. Do not procrastinate: Many times, I have seen as a counselor, that people postpone their actions because they want to make the best choice or take the best decision.
7. Avoid Indecisiveness: There is nothing called INDECISIVENESS in life. It only means that you are deciding NOT TO TAKE DECISION NOW. Therefore, you have to bear the repercussion of this decision.
8. Keep moving: Even if you move in the wrong direction; it is much better than not moving because soon you would know that this direction is wrong and you have eliminated one wrong direction; like Edison.

I am sure, you would be able to overcome your Anxiety.

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To have a HAPPY MARRIED LIFE; to make your interactions healthy with your partner; the first & foremost is to know about your own Personality Type; which guides your behavior. Your likes & dislikes depend on your personality type; which may or may not be same as of your partner.

In this blog; we would understand about Personality & Personality Types.

Role of Personality Type in relationships

People of same personality type behave similarly. Therefore, if both couples are of same personality type then their feelings, thinking, behavior, likes & dislikes will be more or less same and hence chances of them having a happy married life are more.

Similarly, people of different personality types behave differently. They think differently, they feel differently, their like & dislikes are different. Therefore, if couples are of different personality types, then there will be variety in their life.

At times, these differences are not viewed as “variety” but more as the issues of conflicts. These differences become the reasons of conflict among couples and the relationship starts to spoil.

The Art of Happy Marriage is to learn to interact effectively with different personality types so that you can view these differences as variety in life. Then one plus one with be greater than two.

What is Personality?

Personality is the combination of special qualities of a person that makes him unique and different from others in the manner he behaves, feels or thinks.

These special qualities are acquired through family values, social conditioning, experiences, future expectations etc. Since these are different for different persons, hence people have different personalities.

Behavior

Our behavior depends on our personality i.e. on our values, conditioning, experiences, expectations etc.

Therefore, people with different personalities have different behavior.

Classification of Personality

Every person is unique as he has unique past experiences, future expectations, family values & conditioning. However, many people in the past have tried to broadly classify the Personality Types so that it is easy to study and understand the normal behavior of people broadly. However, minor variations will always be there from person to person.

There have been many classifications of Personality Types in the past. Some of them are as follows:

Guna as per Indian Yoga

Guna means the nature, quality, virtues, tendency or attributes. In Geeta, Lord Krishna has classified the personality types based on three Gunas that are as follows:

1. Tamasik are those people who have the quality of dullness, inactivity, apathy, inertia, lethargy, laziness.
2. Rajasik are those people who have the quality of passion, activity, being driven, moving, dynamic, in action.
3. Satvik are those people who have the quality of balance, harmony, goodness, purity, universalizing, holistic, positive, peaceful and virtuous.

Varna as per Indian Yoga

As per Hindu Mythology, another Personality Type classification was done on the basis of Varna means type, order or class. The four Varna are as under:

1. Brahmin are those who have interest & passion in learning & teaching.
2. Kshatriya are those who have interest in ruling, war, administration, politics, etc.
3. Vaishya are those who have interest in doing business, agriculture or merchants.
4. Shudhra are those who have interest in serving or helping others.

Suggestibility/ Sexuality Types

Another classification is based on the Suggestibility & Sexuality;

Suggestibility means the way one takes the inputs and Sexuality means the way one behaves.

They are broadly classified into following two categories:

1. Physical are action oriented, likes to show off and are emotionally weak.
2. Emotional are thought oriented, do not like to show off and are emotionally strong.

Ghost Nature

Another method of classification is based on Ghost Nature. It has the following two group of personality types:

“I” Type Personality.  It is further classified into following four categories:

1. “I am Right” type personalities.
2. “I will possess” type personalities.
3. “I will Dominate” type personalities.
4. “I am Justified” type personalities.

“YOU” Type Personality. It is further classified into following four categories:

1. “You are Wrong” type personalities.
2. “You cannot Possess’ type personalities.
3. “You cannot Dominate” type personalities.
4. “You are not Justified” type personalities.

As per Transactional Analysis

Transactional Analysis classifies behavior into the following three categories:

PARENT LIKE

1. Nurturing Parent type are those who are caring & concerned for others.
2. Controlling (or Critical) Parent types are those who want others to behave as per the social norms; makes them understand how to live in a society; have high moral & social values.

ADULT LIKE are those who are rational personalities, talks reasonably & assertively, neither trying to control nor reacting aggressively towards others.

CHILD LIKE

1. Natural Child type are those who like playing, are open and vulnerable. They are largely un-self aware and are characterized by the non-speech noises they make.
2. Little Professor type are those who are curios, exploring new things, trying out new stuff.
3. Adaptive Child type are those who reacts to the world around them; either changing themselves to fit in it or rebelling against the forces they feel.

ABCD Personality Types

This is another way of doing Personality Type Classification. It classifies people into following four Personality Types:

1. A Type Personality are competitive, high achievers and have high sense of time urgency.
2. B Type Personality are relaxed, laid back and are not easily stressed. They can be achievers but not competitors like A Type. They can delay the work, do it in the last moment, procrastinators.
3. C Type Personality love details and spend lot of time trying to find out how things work and hence they are suitable for technical works. They are not at all assertive and always suppress their desires even if they dislike something. They are prone to tremendous stess and at times, depression.
4. D Type Personality are distressed. They are pessimistic and have negative lookout towards life. They have a fear of rejection and hence are socially withdrawn. They suppress their emotions and hence are prone to depression.

MBTI Personality Types

As per MBTI, there are four groups of Personality Types; as under:

1. EXTROVERSION OR INTROVERSION (E OR I): This group focuses on “What is your favorite world – outer world or inner world”? Where do you put your attention and get energy from – People or ideas. Where do you like to spend your time – in outer world of people & things or in your inner world of ideas and images.
2. SENSING OR INTUITION(S OR N): This group focuses on “How do you take information”? Do you prefer to focus on basic information you take in or do you prefer to interpret and add meaning? Do you pay more attention to the information that comes through your five senses or do you pay more attention to the patterns and possibilities that you see in the information you receive?
3. THINKING OR FEELING (T OR F): This group focuses on “Making Decision”. While making decision, do you give priority to logic & consistency or you priority to look at people & social circumstances? Do you like to put more weight on objective principals and impersonal facts or do you put more weight on personal concerns and the people involved.
4. JUDGING OR PERCEIVING (J OR P): This group focuses on “Dealing with outside world”. Do you prefer to get things decided (plan & control) or do you prefer to stay open to new information and options (flexible & spontaneous).

Based on different permutation & combinations of these four groups of two opposites each; there are 16 personality types which have their unique behavior.

Many Other Personality Classifications

There are many more Personality Type Classifications which people have done to try to understand human behavior.

Conclusion

The purpose is not to make you an expert in assessing personality types; but to give you a fair idea that based on different personality types; people behave differently. Therefore, as a Relationship Counselor, I can say that when couples come to me for Relationship Counseling; I invariable observe that the other partner is not wrong but different because of different personality type.

Since we always feel that my behavior is right; then obviously the normal behavior of your partner (if he is of different personality type) would appear wrong.

Therefore, it is important to know your personality type and the normal behavior of other personality types. Then you would be able to appreciate your partner’s behavior, even if it is different.

As a result your married life would become happy.

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“Meditation & Its Benefits” is a blog that I am writing based on the learning from my Masters and my meditation experience of over 13 years.

In 2005, I was blessed to be accepted as a disciple by my Masters at OshoDhara.  OshoDhara is a live mystery school nurtured by a trinity of enlightened masters (Sadguru Trivir) following the teachings of OSHO.

OSHO has narrated a beautiful story. I would like to start with that.

Story of breaking the Coconut

The Question

Once upon a time, there was a person who met a Saint. The person asked the Saint, “How is it possible that Jesus was full of love even for those who were crucifying him. And not only Jesus, there have been many Saints, Gurus & Spiritual Masters in the past, who could not only forgive their enemies but also were full of love for them?”

Coconut Experiment by the Saint

Instead of replying to this question, the Saint gave that person a tender green coconut and asked him to break it. But there is a condition that only the outer green cover should break. The inside copra, the white eatable part of the coconut should not break at all.

The person said that it is not possible.

The Saint took the tender coconut and replaced it with the dry coconut. Then he asked the person to break it, but the condition remains the same.

The person said that it is very easy and he can break the coconut without damaging the internal copra.

The Saint took that coconut also and said that there is no need to break even this coconut.

He asked a question to that person. “Why is it that you feel you can break the dry coconut and not the tender one, without damaging the internal white copra?”

The person said that it is because the copra in the tender coconut is stuck to the walls of the outer covering whereas when the coconut becomes dry, the copra gets disconnected with the outer covering and there becomes a space between the two. When there is a space between the two, it is easy to break the outer covering without damaging the internal copra.

The Answer of the Saint

The Saint said that it is the answer to your question.

Those who could create a space between their internal soul and the external body, like the ripe coconut, remain unaffected even if something happens to their outer physical body.

MEDITATION IS A TECHNIQUE TO GET THIS REALIZATION IN LIFE.

All those saints who were full of love even for their enemies have actually attained that state through Meditation.

Realizations Through Meditation

If you do meditation regularly, you will have two important realizations:

1. As the real coconut is the copra inside and the outer body is its cover. Similarly, through Meditation, you get a realization that my real self is the soul, the spirit and my outer body is just like a cover, an external casing.
2. The physical body is moral and it has to finish one day or the other; whereas the soul is like an energy which is immortal & eternal.

With these two realizations, your approach towards life will change phenomenally.

Let us try to understand through an example

Scene 1

Suppose you are an employee and you work in an office or at some shop. You are working there for years together. You love your place, you keep it clean take care of it, manage it well.

Now imagine that one day that office or shop building catches a huge fire. What would you do & how would you feel?

You would first save yourself by running out of the building. Then obviously you will try to extinguish the fire, call for help, call the fire brigade & police to control and extinguish the fire. Precisely, you would do whatever best is possible to save the property or minimize the damage.

Scene 2

Imagine that instead of office or shop on fire, now your own purchased house is on fire.

You would exactly do the same as you did for your office or shop.

But will you have the same feelings?

Obviously many of us would not have the same feeling. This difference in feeling cannot be explained in words, but I am sure, you would have understood & realized it well.

The very thought that my purchased house is on fire will shake us to the roots, whereas we will be a little detached when there is a fire in the office or in shop.

Same Difference through Meditation

When you do meditation and get the realization that I am not the mortal body but the immortal soul. When you could feel the two as two different faculties and a gap, a space between the two, your approach to your life would change.

Then one day you can also attain the state where you will not only be full of love for your enemies but roar on the top of your voice, “O God! Forgive them as they do not know what they are doing”. They are trying to damage the mortal body thinking that they are doing harm to me. I am the immortal soul and no action from their side can damage or destroy me.

Benefits Of Meditation

Imagine that you have attained the state where you could feel that there is a space between your body & the soul and get identified with soul instead of body & mind. Now understanding the benefits of Meditation will be pretty easy:

1. You will never be in the grip of negative stress, anxiety or depression.

You know it very well that your mind & body are your external covering; but you are a soul. You will do the best for them but will not be much affected by the result.

2. You will be free from all type of fears.

All fears are the derivatives of the fear of death. Once you realize that you as a soul are immortal and the body is mortal and has to die one day, you will accept your death. Then the fear of death will go away. As a result all your fears will also go away.

3. Happiness, celebration & joy will become integral part of your life

Once you know that your existence is eternal, there shall be no misery in life. You will become happy irrespective of the circumstances in life.

4. Your health will improve

You might be surprised to know that 90% of the diseases are psychosomatic in nature. The root cause is in the mind in the form of negative emotions and the manifestation of the disease is on the body. Once you are free from negative stress, anxiety, depression, anger, fears and all other negative emotions, you will be free from 90% of the diseases.

5. Healing of your body will improve

Our body has beautiful auto healing mechanisms. When we do meditation, we get connected with the cosmic universal energy which heals our body.

6. You will become Successful in life

The life will become like a stage play for you. Your acceptance power of the result will increase. Your performance pressure & anxiety of the result will vanish.

Once you perform without the performance pressure and without the anxiety of the result, your quality of work & action will get improved substantially and the chances of becoming successful in your life increases manifold.

7. Your relationships will become cordial

Once you are happy, you spread happiness around you. A happy person neither gets hurt by others behavior nor tries to hurt others. Once you behave genuinely, loving, with care & affection, the same positivity will be reciprocated from other side.

Your expectations from the others will reduce and as a result your relations with family, friends & at workplace will improve.

8. Many other benefits

The list is long. I am sure, at this stage, it is easy for you to understand many other benefits of Meditation yourself.

A line of caution

We postpone the good things and immediately do the wrong things. We postpone love but not the anger. We postpone meditation for the old age, which is the biggest crime that a person can do with him.

Benefits of meditation can be achieved in life only by doing and not by knowing.

Don’t wait for tomorrow. TOMORROW NEVER COMES.

Get up and start it NOW ITSELF.

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With my experience of Spirituality, Psychology, Hypnotherapy & Counseling; I personally feel that Spiritual Counseling is a Step Ahead of Psychological Counseling. Spiritual Counseling is comparatively more effective and powerful, hence I thought of sharing my ideas with the intention that more and more people should become Successful, Healthy and Happy and have Cordial Relations in their life.

These are purely my views and have no intention to hurt anyone sentiments.

This blog covers the following three dimensions:

1. Why & when do we need counseling?
2. The Psychological Perspective.
3. Spiritual Perspective.

Why & When do we need Counseling?

As we enter into our youth, our basic requirement is to become Successful and all our energies are focused towards becoming successful. We have to become financially independent. As we climb on the ladder of experience, we should grow from having Financial Security to Financial Freedom to Financial Abundance in life.

Two Steps to Success

Success is not a milestone but a continuous journey on the right path. There are only two steps to Success:

1. Take the right decisions by making the right choices at the right time in life.
2. Implement decision to continue moving on the path of Success, in the right direction.

For moving continuously on the right path of Success, you need to be sufficiently motivated, happy and energized.

Bottlenecks in the path of Success

Anything that reduces your motivation, happiness or energy level is a bottleneck in the path of Success. Because, even after making the right choices, it will not let you move on the path of Success freely.

Bottlenecks could be your fears, depression, anxiety, lack of confidence, defensive behavior, traumatic experience in life, spoiled relations with family or friends or at workplace, physical illness and many more.

If you are facing any of these bottlenecks in life, it is the right time for you to go for Counseling.

The Psychological Perspective

Sigmund Freud had made a great contribution in the field of Psychology. He is the founder of Psychoanalysis, a Clinical Method for treating psychopathology through dialogue between a patient and a Psychoanalyst.

Important Principal of Psychology

In Psychology, there is an important relationship between “Behavior”, “Personality” & “Environment”.

Our Behavior is dependent of our Personality & Environment.

“Environment” is external to us and is beyond our control.

“Theory of Personality” by Sigmund Freud

Freud gave the concept of Id, Ego & Superego.

In common language we can understand:

• Id as our basic Natural Instincts of seeking pleasure in life.
• Superego is our Morality or the moral values that we learn from our parents, elders, teachers and society so that we can adjust well with the society.
• Ego is the way to mediate or strike a balance between our Instincts/ pleasure seeking activities vis a vis the Moral Values we have learnt from the society.

Accordingly our Personality is developed.

Let us understand from an example:

Suppose you are a student and sitting with your friends in the college campus. You see your teacher rushing towards her class room, and while walking, she slips and falls down in front of you. What would you do?

• Natural Instinct might be to laugh.
• Moral Values will tell you that laughing is not good and will try to stop you from laughing.
• Ego will strike a balance between the two.

Some of you might burst into laughter while others might control the laughter & suppress their feelings.

Let us evaluate both the possibilities.

1. Those who laugh: They are giving more importance to their instincts as compared to their morality and hence they started laughing. They will not be considered as good students because their behavior is not normal or as per social norms. These students might enter into Guilt. Over a period of time, non acceptance by society together with the feeling of guilt will become the bottleneck in their path of Success.
2. Those who don’t laugh: They are giving more importance to Morality as compared to their natural instincts and therefore, are suppressing their feeling. Their behavior will be highly acceptable by the society and would be considered as good students.. However, this suppression of laughter coupled with other suppressed feelings over a period of time might result into unhappiness, lack of confidence that will act as bottleneck in their path of Success.

In either case, you are bound to be Unhappy and that unhappiness would become a bottleneck in the path of Success.

Conclusion of Psychological Perspective

The other is responsible for my behavior; for my unhappiness. That may be in the form of environment (which is not in my control) or through my personality which is a built by my elders during my nurture.

Till other will not change, I cannot change and hence I cannot be happy.

Spiritual Perspective

To understand the Spiritual Perspective, let us see the Four Noble Truths given by Gautam Buddha.

Four Noble Truths by Gautam Buddha

Gautam Buddha has given four Noble Truths. Noble truths means that they are eternal, universal for everyone without exception.

The four noble truths are as follows:

1.      The Truth of Suffering

Everyone’s life has sufferings. The reason of suffering may be different for different people. We have seen above, in Psychological Perspective as to how either of our behavior would lead to sufferings.

2.      The Truth of Cause of Suffering

Every suffering has a cause or a reason behind it. There is no suffering without a reason.

3.      The Truth of End of Suffering

The reason or cause of sufferings can be eliminated and the unconditional happiness can flow in life.

4.      The Truth of the path that leads to the end of Suffering

Gautam Buddha has given the Eight fold path that leads to end of suffering and brings happiness & enlightenment.

Conclusion of Spiritual Perspective

As per Spirituality, the others will not change. People, environment, circumstances etc. will always remain same; still we can become Happy here and now.

Why Spiritual Counseling is a step ahead of Psychological Counseling?

Since Psychology believes that other’s are responsible for my unhappiness and till others will not change, I cannot change therefore, through Psychological Counseling you can help you attain the state of normal happiness.

Some normal, acceptable level of unhappiness will always remain.

Where, Spirituality believes that other’s will not change and I can be happy here and now. Therefore, Spiritual counseling deals with the techniques as to how we can become happy irrespective of external factors.

An example to understand

We all are aware about Jesus who was full of blessings even for those who were crucifying him. He was saying, “O God! Please forgive them as they do not know what they are doing”.

In the spiritual history, he is not the only example. We can find many similar examples from Sufis, Gurus of  Sikh religion, Gautam Buddha and many others.

However, we have no example outside Spirituality, who was full of so much of unconditional happiness that he could even forgive his enemies.

“CONQUER THE SUCCESS” training is the right solution

Based on the learning from my life, I have designed a training Conquer The Success to help individuals to become Successful, Healthy, Happy & have Cordial Relations.

Conquer The Success Training has 6 modules. Each module is of 1 day.

• Module 1: Understanding Success & Happiness and move in the right direction.
• Module 2: How to take important decisions & make choices that lead us to Success. If we are not able to take the decisions, we are likely to enter into anxiety.
• Module 3: How to implement the decision. Because, planning followed by implementation leads to Success, else Depression.
• Module 4: How to keep your self Healthy.
• Module 5: How to keep cordial relations with family, friends & at workplace.
• Module 6: How to be happy, joyful & celebration in life through meditation. How to get rid of the negative emotions.

Please visit  Conquer The Success Training for more details about the training.

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We invite you to attend Conquer The Success Training. I can assure you that these 6 days will transform your life and take it to new heights of Success & Happiness.

Wish you a life full of Success & Happiness.

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1. Conquer The Success – For Success & Happiness
2. Meet Mr. Successful
3. Success & Happiness: Which is more important?
4. Blueprint of Success & Happiness
5. Why meditation is important for success & happiness
6. Taking The Right Decision
7. Add Wings to your Performance on Implementation of decisions.
8. Vicious Circle of Unhappiness
9. Happiness is the glue of Unity

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“Happiness is the glue of Unity” is the output of my analysis of the strained relationships; that I see as a counselor daily.

I would like to start with a small story (Unity is Strength) that our granny had told us when we were small.

The Story told by Granny

Once upon a time in a village there lived a farmer who had four sons. They were always quarreling with one another. The farmer tried his level best to bring them on the right path. But they never listened to the farmer and ignored his advice.

So the farmer was very worried and he thought, “How am I going to convince them that if they keep on quarreling with themselves, then others will take advantage of them”. They have to be together.

One day, he thought of an idea. He called his sons and asked them to bring a few sticks.  All four sons went around and brought some wooden sticks with them. When they brought those sticks, he tied them in one bundle and gave the bundle to each son and asked them to use their full strength and try to break it. They tried all their strength and power to break the bundle of sticks but could not break it at all. They returned the bundle to the farmer.

Now farmer opened the bundle and gave one stick each to his sons and asked them to break the stick. That was very easy and each of his sons could break the stick at once.

The sons realized what their father was trying to teach them.

They realized that if they keep on quarreling and are not united, then anyone can break them and take advantage of them but if they stay united and work together, they will be so strong like bundle of the sticks that nobody can break their unity and they will always prosper.

Are we really united?

In-spite of listening the story, are we really united? It is the burning question on the table.

Practicality appears to be much different, much ugly, and much hostile than the moral of the story.

Instead of experiencing “UNITY” in the relationships; it is seen that almost all the relations are strained. May they be the relations of husband-wife, or child-parent, or boss-subordinate or among peers, friends, neighbors, families or any relations for that matter.

The matter of surprise

It is surprising, that almost all of us would have heard this story and still we are we not united? This story is passing from one generation to another, since ages.

Either we have not understood the importance of UNITY, or we have understood it only to the level of our intellect and have not allowed it to go deep down in our blood & behavior.

The Irony of the fate

The irony of the fate is that the parents who themselves are not united; who are having strained relations even after listening this story; are repeating the same story to their kids; expecting them to understand the importance of unity and remain united with their brothers and sisters.

High Time for introspection.

When we have reached to a stage where every relation is strained or tensed, it is the high time to do an introspection as to why are we not united? Why our relation are becoming a reason for unhappiness, worries and tension; instead of happiness, love and care.

Though we all understand the importance of unity, then why are we lacking it?

My Analysis

I started to analyze it from the very basics.

If we forget our relatives, for the time being and let us bring the attention to ourselves, we will find that we are not single but a combination of mind, body, intellect and soul?

I put the first point for introspection:

Are we united at the level of our mind, body, intellect and soul?

Do we do what we think and think what we feel?

As a counselor, since many people come to me for counseling, I get an opportunity to observe it very closely in many people’s lives.

And the answer is a big NO?

Hypocrisy

Hypocrisy is something that deep seeded in our personality & behavior. What we feel for others, we do not show it to them.

I remember a small joke:

A small child asked the guests “Uncle Are you Bastard?” The guest was surprised and angry but controlled his feelings since he was a small child. So the guest asked, “Why are you asking this?” Then the child replies that his father was saying inside that this bastard has come once again.

But when the guest had come, his father had greeted him with open arms and behaved as if it is really an honor to have him here.

This hypocrisy (difference in thinking and behaving) is a reason of many psychosomatic diseases also.

How a person, who is not united in himself at the level of his mind, body, intellect and soul; can be united with other family members.

It is absolutely impossible.

The Solution

Hence, the solution is to start working on ourselves to have unity between our mind, body, intellect and our soul.

And once we ourselves are united, we will feel HAPPY.

Happiness is the glue of unity; that unites people

Only a HAPPY person can think of uniting with others.

Try to analyse from your own experiences:

When you are happy; what do you do?

When you are very happy, you have got a promotion or a birthday or a marriage ceremony; you throw a party, invite all your friends & relatives, celebrate and share your happiness with everyone.

You take initiative to meet other people. You like to be surrounded with people.

When you are sad, what do you do?

When there is an unpleasant event or incident in life; a setback or anything of that sort, you escape from others, cut off from the world. If the grief is intense, some people might enter into depression.

So when you are sad, you don’t like to meet people, you prefer to be in your own cocoon.

Conclusion of my Analysis

My conclusion, after an in-depth analysis, is:

• unity is important
• there is a meaning in granny’s story
• Happiness is the glue of unity.

A person who is happy in himself can only unite with others.

For happiness, first we have to work on the unity at the level of our mind, body, intellect and soul.

We have to remove Hypocrisy from our life, be honest, truthful and courageous.

Then the next step would be to get united with family & friends.

Happy relationships will become necessary ingredient of our life and we would feel very energetic and light as if we have got the wings to fly.

“CONQUER THE SUCCESS” training is the right solution

To help you unite at the level of mind, body, intellect and soul, I have designed a training Conquer The Success to help individuals to become SUCCESSFUL & HAPPY. Once you are happy, uniting with others will be a practical reality.

Conquer The Success Training has 6 modules. Each module is of 1 day.

• Module 1: Understanding Success & Happiness and move in the right direction.
• Module 2: How to take important decisions & make choices that lead us to Success. If we are not able to take the decisions, we are likely to enter into anxiety.
• Module 3: How to implement the decision. Because, planning followed by implementation leads to Success, else Depression.
• Module 4: How to keep your self Healthy.
• Module 5: How to keep cordial relations with family, friends & at workplace.
• Module 6: How to be happy, joyful & celebration in life through meditation. How to get rid of the negative emotions.

Please visit  Conquer The Success Training for more details about the training.

We also provide TRAINING, COUNSELING and BEHAVIOR THERAPIES. You may visit the respective web pages for more details.

Discussion Forum

Should you have any queries, please join our Discussion Forum and post your queries there. We shall take them up.

We invite you to attend Conquer The Success Training. I can assure you that these 6 days will transform your life and take it to new heights of Success & Happiness.

Wish you a life full of Success & Happiness.

Stay connected,

NOTE: MY EARLIER BLOGS ON SUCCESS & HAPPINESS 

1. Conquer The Success – For Success & Happiness
2. Meet Mr. Successful
3. Success & Happiness: Which is more important?
4. Blueprint of Success & Happiness
5. Why meditation is important for success & happiness
6. Taking The Right Decision
7. Add Wings to your Performance on Implementation of decisions.
8. Vicious Circle of Unhappiness

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Many-many happy wishes to you on Diwali and all the festivals associated with it.

In India, during this Diwali period, the festivity & celebration are at the peak. The life is full of joy, thrill & happiness.

As we all know, many rituals are attached with these series of festivals which are followed with lot of devotion, dedication and trust.

An Intellectual Question

Sometimes back, someone has sent a message on WhatsApp group that how come buying utensils or gold & silver ornaments, on a festival two days before Diwali (Called Dhanteras) can make us rich.

On the contrary, to buy these things we have to shell out our saving. So logically, instead of becoming rich, we will become poor by that much amount of money.

One of the answers that were posted to its reply was that you should not challenge the sentiments & belief attached with these rituals. If you do not want, do not follow; but do not send these types of posts on the group.

I was surprised not by the question but by the answer

I remember an old statement of Albert Einstein who has rightly said, “Science without Religion is lame and Religion without science is blind.”

So I thought to write this blog “Science behind Diwali rituals”. There are some important reasons to it:

1. Many people, especially the present generation, who are highly intellectual will not agree to follow the rituals if Science behind Diwali Rituals is not known. I am in support of the intellectual growth. However, it should be logically satisfied.
2. The way I see, Diwali is not only a festival which is celebrated only by certain people through certain rituals; but a way to live the life that can bring success, health, happiness, prosperity and cordial relations to everyone. I do not think, there is anyone who does not want any of these things in his life.
3. Conquer The Success, as you know, is to become Successful together with Health, Happiness & Cordial relations. Therefore, the “Science Behind Diwali Rituals” is one of the topics close to my heart and motivates me to write this blog.

The topic is long and it will lose its essence if I break it into different blogs. Therefore, it has become a little longer than usual.

But I am sure, those who want to achieve Success in their life together with health, happiness and cordial relations with family & friends; they will not find it long.

Anyway, it is much smaller as compared to a book.

However, for those who understand well by listening, my videos are attached at the end of this blog.

SCIENCE BEHIND DIWALI RITUALS

The Festivals Associated with Diwali

Diwali is a series of five days of five festivals.

1. Dhanteras: It is celebrated 2 days before Diwali.
2. Choti Diwali: One day before Diwali
3. Diwali: The Main Festival
4. Govardhan Pooja: Next day after Diwali
5. Bhai Dauj: Two Days after Diwali.

DAY 1: DHANTERAS

The series of festivals start with Dhanteras, by worshiping 4 Deities, in the following chronological order.

1. Lord Dhanvantari: The Deity of Health
2. Lord Yam: The Deity of Death
3. Goddess Lakshmi: The Deity of Wealth &  fortune
4. Lord Kuber: The Deity of Prosperity.

Each of them has a deep symbolic meaning for our overall wellness & growth in life.

Let us understand the science behind each of them:

Lord Dhanvantari for Health

Remembering the Lord of Health at the very beginning of the festival symbolizes that health is of primary importance.

It is an old saying “Health is Wealth”.

We are born healthy then how do we fall ill?

Two main reasons for falling sick are as below. Once we take care of them, we can live a healthy life.

1. Psychosomatic Diseases: 90% of the diseases are psychosomatic in nature that means the reason of disease is in the mind like stress, anxiety or depression; and its effects are manifested on the body.
   1. Rituals: We celebrate the festival for five long days, wear new clothes, make delicious food, buy gifts, distribute gifts to friends and family, get filled with positive hope by offering prayers for health, money & prosperity.
   2. Intellectual Logic: Same as we have seen before that if we spend on these items, we will shell out our saving and become poor by that much of amount.
   3. Psychological facts:
      1. Opposite emotions cannot stay in our mind at the same time. So when we are happy and celebrative; negative emotions like anxiety, depression, stress, unhappiness have to go out.
      2. Newness brings thrill in life and thrill is followed by happiness. When we do so many new things, it brings thrill followed by happiness in life.

• Law of Attraction: What we hope and desire with totality & trust, we start attracting and getting them in life. When we offer prayers for health, money etc. we are not only filled with hope but with lot of trust. Law of attraction starts working and makes our desires fulfilled.

2. Infectious Diseases: 10% of the diseases are said to be infectious like viral infection etc. Mosquitoes are the major carriers.
   1. Ritual: Thorough cleaning of the house before Diwali because Goddess Laksmi (Money) comes in a house which is clean
      1. Diwali comes immediately after the rainy season. During this time lot of mosquitoes, insects etc. are there and if there are any untouched corners or areas in the house; they stay and grow there. Therefore, cleaning the house in this season is good to save us from infectious diseases.
      2. On one hand, cleaning the house fills us with thrill, & hope of attracting more money, on the other hand saves us from the viral and other type of infections.

Lord Yam for Death

Next important thing is to get rid of our fears as they are negative emotions and are responsible for our psychosomatic diseases and a big hurdle to our happiness.

All fears are because of fear of Death

Somewhere deep down, we have a fear of Death and whatever event or person triggers that, we feel fear.

So if we can get rid of fear of death, eventually we will get rid of all our fears. That’s why we remember the Lord of Death.

• Ritual: If you lit a lamp in South, you will be saved from premature death; and hence we can get rid of fear of death.
• Logic: All our ancestors had lit the lamp but they have died; then how come we will not die.
• Science:
  • We are not only a body and mind but also the consciousness. When we do meditation, we experience that body and mind are not “me” but “mine”. Our true self is the very consciousness, which never dies. Body is evanescent. It is bound to end, bound to die. So, when we meditate; as a result our identity will change from body to consciousness; then we get an understanding that I cannot die.
  • The light of the lamp also has important significance. When you go deep in meditation, you will experience that one of the characteristics of our consciousness is Divine Light, a light that is illuminating in the entire consciousness. Lighting a lamp means to experience that divine light of our consciousness. Once we do that, our fear of death goes away.
  • Fear of death is a motivation to start meditation. You would have seen that only human being meditate and no other creature. That is because only human being is matured enough to realize the death.

Goddess Lakshmi & Lord Kuber for Wealth and Prosperity

After becoming healthy & getting rid of our fears, the next important thing is to have money and prosperity so that we can buy whatever we want; we become successful.

Therefore, we remember Goddess Lakshmi & Lord Kuber.

• Rituals: Buy new clothes for yourself and family; giving gifts to relatives, friends & family members; buy utensils, expensive articles like gold & silver jewelry; decorating the house; lighting candles; offering prayers.
• Science of Becoming rich: Another name of money is CURRENCY. Currency is something that has current; that flows. Why money is called currency, because if flows from one person to another.

Prosperity comes not only by having the money but by spending, by movement, by flow of currency.

Because of these rituals, it is estimated that India spends nearly 250 Billion rupees on Diwali shopping every year.

When everyone spends a little, may be for the sake of rituals, the money flows and the value of currency increases.

During Diwali, everything is sold, stating from expensive gold ornaments, to gifts to small value items like candles, calendars, decorative items.

That means that everyone gets the livelihood. Even a poor who is making the earthenware also gets livelihood. Everyone earns on Diwali because the currency is in flow.

You would be surprised to know that the countries where the culture is not of saving but of spending, the prosperity is coming. May it be countries of Europe or USA.

Those who have made the rituals knew the economics very well that let the money flow and prosperity is bound to come in life.

• Psychological reasons of giving gifts, we have already discussed above.

DAY 2: CHOTI DIWALI

On this day, some people take a holy dip in the holy Ganges River. Wear new clothes and visit their friends to give gifts and best wishes.

Since this is a day before Diwali, we eagerly wait for The Diwali Day and have lot of excitement.

Let us see the science behind each one of them.

Science Behind Holy Dip in holy river Ganga

Belief:  It is believed that taking a holy dip can absolve a person of his previous sins and he could be saved from going to hell.

Science: As a counselor, I have experienced many people suffering from problems or unhappiness because of guilt. You can also experience from your experiences that when you  have a feeling of guilt, you feel unhappy.

After fear, another strong negative emotion that is a reason of unhappiness and psychosomatic diseases is GUILT.

Taking a holy bath that absolves a person of his sins, is actually a technique to releasing the feeling of GUILT.

The moment we are free from guilt, we are filled with positivity, hope, happiness and trust.

Science Behind Eagerly waiting for Diwali

After getting rid of negative emotions like fear & guilt, the next step is to attract Happiness.

We get HAPPINESS when we achieve something. Getting a good result or visiting a place or meeting someone.

Therefore, happiness is very momentary, for a very short time. After we have achieved, the happiness is no longer experienced.

There cannot always be the opportunity of achieving something.

Then how to be with the positive emotions for a longer time?

Exultation, thrill, excitement, joy etc. are the positive feelings that stay with us for a long time. You would have experienced the thrill of upcoming weekend starts from “Thursday” itself,  the thrill you get a day before you have to go for a picnic, or a thrill a day before your childhood friend is coming, a thrill before meeting your loved one.

On Choti Diwali, we have decorated our house, got new clothes & gifts, and distributed the gifts and now waiting for the important day of Diwali when the celebration will be on the climax. This wait for positive events gives us exultation, a thrill, a joy which are positive emotions that can last for a long time.

DAY 3: DIWALI FESTIVAL

Now the long awaited Diwali has come. When the wait is over, the HAPPINESS is at its peak.

Belief

It is believed that Lord Ram was born in Ayodhya, a place in North India. When he was there, just because of his presence, there was happiness everywhere.

As he grows young, the circumstances take such a turn that he has to go on exile in jungle for 14 years. He had mixed good and bad experiences. Sometimes he was happy when he met the Saints and was unhappy when his wife was taken away by Ravan.

There he kills Ravan and returns back to Ayodhya.

Diwali is celebrated in the honor & celebration of returning of Lord Ram back to Ayodhya.

When Lord Ram returns back to Ayodhya, he was welcomed by light of the lamps and sound of the crackers. There was happiness all around.

Now let us see the science behind each one of them

Science behind “Lord Ram was born in Ayodhya and everyone was happy”

We are born happy.

Let us understand by an example.

We feel happy when we get money or power or respect or success or appreciation. Means, when we achieve something, we feel happy.

Many of us feel that our most happy period was our childhood.

You would be surprised that why were we happy when we were a child?

We had no money or anything that makes us happy now. On the contrary, we were dependent on parents and elders. And dependence gives unhappiness.

That was because we were connected with our consciousness and hence we were happy. We knew special type of Happiness that was without any reason or a cause.

It is represented by the belief that when Lord Ram was in Ayodhya, there was happiness all around.

Science behind “Lord Ram went to exile, WHEN HE GREW YOUNG”

Happiness is inside but success is outside.

For success, our consciousness needs to travel in the world. We go to school, college, get proper education, get a job and become capable to earn our livelihood.

Means we have to do some worldly affairs to become successful.

This fact is represented by the belief that when Lord Ram became young, he had to go to exile, away from Ayodhya.

Science behind “Lord Ram went to exile, TO JUNGLE”

Jungle is a representation of a place where there are no roads. It is grass everywhere and one has to find his own path. As he moves along, the path is built.

It represents that, for success, there are no pre-built paths or predefined roads to success. Everyone has to make his own path to success. As we proceed, the path is constructed.

Science Behind “Lord Ram had mixed good and bad experiences”

When our consciousness is in the external world and not connected to itself, then there are reasons of happiness. If things happen as per our wishes, we get happy and if not, we become unhappy.

Science Behind “Lord Ram kills Ravan and returns back to Ayodhya. He was welcomed by light of the lamps and sound of the crackers. There was happiness all around.”

After completing our work or activities that we have planned to become Successful in the world, we should return back to our own source, return back to our consciousness.

Why?

Because we have seen above that the HAPPINESS WITHOUT A REASON is only when we are connected to our consciousness, like a small child.

This returning to the source is possible through MEDITATION.

When we meditate, we get experience of our consciousness.

In deep meditation, we experience the divine light and divine sound. Which are represented by candle lights & sound of crackers when Lord Ram returned back to Ayodhya.

Through meditation, whenever we return back to our own consciousness, we are also welcome by divine light & divine sound. And our life gets full of Happiness, irrespective of the situations and circumstances in the external world. The HAPPINESS WITHOUT A REASON.

DAY 4: GOVARDHAN POOJA

This is a day after Diwali.

Ritual

I am sure you are aware about the story of Lord Krishna. How he lifted the Govardhan Parvat (a mountain) on his little finger tip and saved the entire village from the heavy rain that was due to the egoistic attitude of Lord Indr.

On this day, Govardhan Parvat is worshiped.

Then every person, every family contributes some or the other raw material to prepare the food. One will contribute vegetables; other will contribute milk and so on.

Then with this collected raw material, people will jointly cook the food for all the families of the society. Everyone sits together and enjoys the food. They celebrate and enjoy together.

The Science Behind these rituals

We have seen above that till the day of Diwali, through meditation, we learnt the art of getting connected with our consciousness and have experienced a special Happiness that is without any reason.

Now what is the next step?

When the clouds are full of water, it sheds water in the form of rain.

Similarly, when our happiness overflows, it wants to get distributed, it wants to get shared with others.

THIS OVERFLOWING HAPPINESS IS LOVE.

When we are happy, we love others. We love our neighbors, we love the rivers, we love the mountains, we love the animals, we love the entire nature.

The ritual of community gathering, common food, meeting people and worship of mountain are the symbol of a Happy People where the happiness is overflowing.

We give what we have

If we are happy, we will give love and if we are unhappy, we will give hatred.

Let us analyze our own lives. Are we giving love or hatred?

• At the level of society, we have polluted the air, polluted the water, polluted the land and made a hole in the ozone layer.
• The cases of eve teasing are increasing, suicides are increasing, rapes are increasing, matrimonial disputes are increasing, child parent relations are getting strained.
• Victims of stress, anxiety and depression are increasing, our fears are increasing.

These are few of the many evidences that show our level of happiness has come down drastically as compared to those times when we used to love not only other people but also the nature.

Question?

Many of you might have a question that after we have experienced happiness without a reason and our happiness is overflowing then why are we sharing it with our neighbors & nature and not with our family?

There is a deep routed symbolic message which is validated by Psychology also.

Where we have expectations, it is difficult to love.

Therefore, the following chronology is suggested to follow:

1. We have absolutely no expectation from the mountains, rivers, sun and nature. Therefore showering love on them is very easy. That should be the first target.
2. We have minimum expectations with our neighbors. Therefore, the second category where we can easily share love are our neighbors.

You would have experienced that you feel comfortable to discuss with strangers, a counselor but not with your family members.

DAY 5: BHAI DAUJ

This is the last day of the series of Diwali Festivals; the climax of the quality of our life.

This festival is celebrated as a symbol of love between brother and sister.

Science Behind Bhai Dauj

After showering the fountain of overflowing happiness in the form of love on nature and neighbors; the next step is the step to shower love on our family members; the close relatives.

As we have seen above that when we have expectations with someone, it is difficult to love them.

As we have most of the expectations from our family members hence it is most difficult and the last step in the chronology to shower love on them.

You might be surprised to know this, but as a counselor, I meet many people who are unhappy because of their loved ones.

Suggestion to improve your relationships

You cannot change the other. The other will remain the way he is.

Therefore, to improve not only the relationship but also your level of happiness, it is recommended to reduce your expectation with your family members.

CONCLUSION

We have seen above that Diwali is not only a bundle of rituals to be followed only by certain group of people for five days; but a way to improve the quality of life.

The chronology is also important

First we need to improve our health; clean our surroundings; get rid of negative emotions like fears and guilt through meditation; experience happiness without a reason; go to the external world to become successful; getting connected to our consciousness through meditation to regularly experience the happiness without a reason; then shower the overflowing happiness in the form of love on nature, neighbors and finally to our family members.

“CONQUER THE SUCCESS” training is on the same lines

We have designed a 6 days training Conquer The Success on the same lines as to how to become Successful together with health, happiness and cordial relations with family & friends.

No rituals, only very scientific understands and practical implementation tools.

Conquer The Success Training has 6 modules. Each module is of 1 day.

• Module 1: Understanding Success & Happiness and move in the right direction.
• Module 2: How to take important decisions & make choices that lead us to Success. If we are not able to take the decisions, we are likely to enter into anxiety.
• Module 3: How to implement the decision. Because, planning followed by implementation leads to Success, else Depression.
• Module 4: How to keep your self Healthy.
• Module 5: How to keep cordial relations with family, friends & at workplace.
• Module 6: How to be happy, joyful & celebration in life through meditation. How to get rid of the negative emotions.

Please visit  Conquer The Success Training for more details about the training.

We also provide TRAINING, COUNSELING and BEHAVIOR THERAPIES. You may visit the respective web pages for more details.

Discussion Forum

Should you have any queries, please join our Discussion Forum and post your queries there. We shall take them up.

We invite you to attend Conquer The Success Training. I can assure you that these 6 days will transform your life and take it to new heights of Success & Happiness.

Wish you a life full of Success & Happiness.

Stay connected,

NOTE: MY EARLIER BLOGS ON SUCCESS & HAPPINESS 

1. Conquer The Success – For Success & Happiness
2. Meet Mr. Successful
3. Success & Happiness: Which is more important?
4. Blueprint of Success & Happiness
5. Why meditation is important for success & happiness
6. Taking The Right Decision
7. Add Wings to your Performance on Implementation of decisions.
8. Vicious Circle on Unhappiness

You may see my other blogs on Conquer The Success Blogs.

With best regards,

Dr. Pankaj Gupta

CEO, Conquer The Success

99537 99435

My Videos on the same topic

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Why to understand VICIOUS CIRCLE OF UNHAPPINESS, when we want happiness?

The very first question that might come to your mind is that we want happiness in our life then why to understand the vicious circle of unhappiness?

Let us try to understand from an example.

We all want to be healthy, but is there anything that can DIRECTLY be done for Health? The answer is NO. Because we are born healthy and there are reasons that make us unhealthy or sick. We can take actions to remove or cure illness and once it is cured, we become healthy automatically.

Similarly, we are born Happy and there are reasons for unhappiness. Nothing can directly be done for happiness. All actions can only be done to get rid of the very reasons of unhappiness and happiness flows automatically.

Happiness is like a spring and the reasons of unhappiness are the stones & rocks that are blocking the flow of the spring. We just have to remove the stones & rocks and the spring of happiness will start flowing automatically.

So, to be happy it is important to understand the VICIOUS CIRCLE OF UNHAPPINESS so that adequate actions are implemented in life to remove them. Happiness will flow on its own.

Vicious Circle of Unhappiness

Important Steps

1. We are born dependent and want to become financially independent. Start with having financial security in life and grow to financial freedom and then to financial abundance.
2. To achieve the big goal, we set some short term targets like we want good job, or want to make a house, or want to find a suitable partner for marriage, or want to purchase a new car, or score good marks, or get selected in competition, or go on a world tour or any other targets. These targets will be completed in future.
3. We have learning, knowledge and wisdom that come from the experiences of our past.
4. Based on our targets of the future and our experiences from the past; we make the strategy in the present and accordingly take the right decisions. Taking decision means to evaluate all the available choices and choose the best one out of them.
5. Next step is to make an action plan with responsibilities & time schedule.
6. Then we implement the actions, review them periodically.
7. Finally the result comes which may or may not be in line with our expectation or targets or goals.

If result is as per our expectations or targets

If the result is as per our expectations, as per our set targets, we feel happy.

If result is not as per our expectations

If the result is not as per our expectation, we feel unhappy.

This unhappiness might result into anxiety and depression.

When we are in Anxiety or depression, we lack motivation and hence we are not in the right frame of mind to implement the actions.

When implementation reduces, the possibility of the result not as per our expectation increases. And this gives rise to further anxiety and depression.

As a result the unhappiness increase as the time passes by.

You would have seen people, once they fail, it is very difficult for them to come out of that shock and back in action.

Whether we are successful or not, we get negative emotions

When we are Successful

We have seen above that when the result is as per our expectations, we become successful and feel happy.

When we are successful then following emotions trigger:

1. Fear of losing what we have achieved. We get so much attached with people or things that are in our possession that there is a constant fear of losing them.
2. Greed to getting more and more. When we buy a new car it gives us happiness but very soon we do not derive any happiness from it and get a feeling of getting a better one, even though there is no need.

Even we are successful, the moment these emotions grip us, we start feeling UNHAPPY.

When we are not Successful

In case the result is not as per our expectations, we are not successful.

There is a high probability of not becoming successful because it is not only our efforts and action that bring result, but a lot of other contributory factors that are not in our control.

When we are not successful then the following emotions trigger:

1. Anyone, whom we feel, is responsible for our failure, we get Angry.
2. If we ourselves are responsible for not becoming successful, we get a feeling of guilt.
3. Those who have become successful, we get a feeling of jealousy.
4. This jealousy, sometimes, grows to the level of hatred.

If we are not successful, we are gripped with these negative emotions and become unhappy.

Negative Emotions are a reason of many diseases

You might be aware about Psychosomatic diseases. They are those diseases which have the roots in our mind and the manifestation is on the body, in the form of disease.

Let us understand by an example.

Suppose you had a hot argument with one of your friends during the day. When you will reach your bed in the night, you will get many thoughts related to that. “He should not have done that; I have been so good to him but he is so mean and rude; I will teach him a lesson” etc. etc.

Because of these thoughts running in your mind, you will not be able to get proper sleep. If there is no proper sleep, the next day you will not feel fresh, you might also have indigestion or constipation or acidity.

This indigestion, constipation, acidity, lack of sleep etc. will cause various another diseases like High Blood Pressure, Diabetes, Overweight, Gastric problems, gout, ulcers, tumors even cancer.

These diseases are known as Psychosomatic diseases, as they have origin in mind (thoughts because of arguments with friends) but they are manifested on body in the form of diseases.

You will be surprised to know that nearly 90% of the diseases today, are Psychosomatic in nature.

Now we take medicines and these medicines have their side effect.

To cure these side effects, we need more medicines.

You can analyze from your life experiences that as the age grows, our baggage of unhappiness & negative emotions grows heavier and heavier and we get sick.

Nowadays many people above the age of 35 years have to take regular medicines for insomnia, BP, diabetes, antacid etc. As the age grows the number of medicines per day increases.

AN IMPORTANT QUESTION

Is there a way out or a solution to become Successful & Happy without affecting our health.

“CONQUER THE SUCCESS” training is the right solution

After understanding the VICIOUS CIRCLE OF UNHAPPINESS from my own life experiences, I have designed a training Conquer The Success to help individuals to come out of this VICIOUS CIRCLE OF UNHAPPINESS.

Conquer The Success Training has 6 modules. Each module is of 1 day.

• Module 1: Understanding Success & Happiness and move in the right direction.
• Module 2: How to take important decisions & make choices that lead us to Success. If we are not able to take the decisions, we are likely to enter into anxiety.
• Module 3: How to implement the decision. Because, planning followed by implementation leads to Success, else Depression.
• Module 4: How to keep your self Healthy.
• Module 5: How to keep cordial relations with family, friends & at workplace.
• Module 6: How to be happy, joyful & celebration in life through meditation. How to get rid of the negative emotions.

Please visit  Conquer The Success Training for more details about the training.

We also provide TRAINING, COUNSELING and BEHAVIOR THERAPIES. You may visit the respective web pages for more details.

Discussion Forum

Should you have any queries, please join our Discussion Forum and post your queries there. We shall take them up.

We invite you to attend Conquer The Success Training. I can assure you that these 6 days will transform your life and take it to new heights of Success & Happiness.

Wish you a life full of Success & Happiness.

Stay connected,

NOTE: MY EARLIER BLOGS ON SUCCESS & HAPPINESS 

1. Conquer The Success – For Success & Happiness
2. Meet Mr. Successful
3. Success & Happiness: Which is more important?
4. Blueprint of Success & Happiness
5. Why meditation is important for success & happiness
6. Taking The Right Decision
7. Add Wings to your Performance on Implementation of decisions.

You may see my other blogs on Conquer The Success Blogs.

With best regards,

Dr. Pankaj Gupta

CEO, Conquer The Success

99537 99435

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If unhappiness, stress, anxiety, depression, suicides etc. are increasing in the world, one of the major reasons I feel, is the reducing popularity of meditation.

I have over 25 years of professional experience at Senior Management Positions and around 12 years of meditation experience under the guidance of Osho. I have experienced both the phases in my life i.e. before I learnt meditation and after that and I see a noticeable contrast.

Whatever I have learnt & experience, I shall be sharing in this blog.

Before we proceed further, a little recap from my earlier blogs on Success & Happiness shall be useful.

Recap from my earlier blogs

1.  Success & Happiness: Which is More Important?

• Both Success & Happiness are equally important in life and one without the other would lead to an incomplete life.
• Happiness is our ultimate need. Whatever we do in our life, the ultimate purpose is to get happiness in life.
• Continual increase in Happiness is Success

2. Blueprint of Success & Happiness

• We have various needs that satisfies the ultimate need of Happiness.
• Our needs can be classified into 7 categories: 1. Physiological Needs; 2. Need of Sense Organs & sex need; 3. Safety & Security Needs; 4. Love Needs; 5. Belongingness Needs; 6. Self Esteem Needs; and 7. Liberation Needs.
• To satisfy these needs we earn money, make house, make family, become part of society or club, polish our skills, go to picnic etc.
• Each need is associated with each chakra.
• If all the categories of needs are satisfied, then we can experience eternal Happiness. If any of the category is missed out or ignored, then our happiness & success will be momentary.

Why Meditation is Important for Success & Happiness

As earning money, making house etc. satisfies our Safety & Security needs  that are associated with our Solar Plexus chakra; similarly Meditation satisfies our Liberation Needs that are associated with our Crown Chakra.

Let us try to understand from our experience.

Those people who do not have sufficient money or resources or good job etc. they are not happy. For them, it is very logical to think that they will be happy one day when they will have sufficient resources to satisfy all their needs.

You will be surprised to know that in the recent few years, since the richness & prosperity has increased; it is observed that even those people who have everything are still not happy.

I have experienced it as a counselor. Some of my clients are very rich and shared with me that they have everything that money could buy on this earth, they also have a nice & loving family; still a feeling of emptiness, unhappiness, an unknown fear is there. They can’t express it in words, cannot find a logical reason for their unhappiness, but it is there.

This happiness is because the Crown chakra needs i.e. Liberation Needs are not taken care of. Therefore, in spite of satisfying the 6 category of needs, we still have a feeling of unhappiness.

The reason of unhappiness if Liberation Needs are not satisfied

The following are the reasons of unhappiness, if Liberation Needs are not satisfied:

1. Expectation or Desires
2. Anger
3. Greed
4. Attachment
5. Jealousy
6. Grudge or Hatred

Saints call them as six enemies in the path of our liberation.

Let us try to understand from our life.

We feel happy when we get money or power or position or name or respect or success or something that we desire. This means that there is a reason for our happiness.

If I ask you a question, “When were you most Happy in your life?” Many of us would say when we were a small kid.

It is surprising that we were most happy when we were a kid but at that time we neither had money nor position nor anything that are listed above. In-fact, we were dependent on our parents and elders.

Have you ever thought about it that why were you most happy as a kid?

It is because at that time we did not have any of the above six enemies (Desires, Anger, Greed, Attachment, Jealousy or Hatred). If our needs like food etc. were satisfied we were happy.

We were experiencing  happiness which was without any reason. Saints call this happiness as Bliss.

How meditation helps to Satisfy Liberation Needs

Normally we have a strong association or identification with our body and mind. We feel that we are body and mind.

All our desires & expectations are to satisfy our physical or emotional needs.

When we do meditation, we start experiencing that our identity is with the consciousness and body and mind are like our assets.

More we get identified with the consciousness, our desires & expectations starts to reduce.

Once desires and expectations starts to reduce all other enemies like anger, greed, attachment, jealousy & hatred starts to reduce.

In this manner our Liberation needs start getting satisfied.

And once all the categories of needs get satisfied, we can experience eternal happiness.

“Conquer The Success” Training is designed to help you to learn to satisfy all 7 categories of needs

Conquer The Success Training has 6 modules. Each module is of 1 day.

• Module 1: Understanding Success & Happiness and move in the right direction.
• Module 2: How to take important decisions & make choices that lead us to Success.
• Module 3: How to implement the decision. Because, planning followed by implementation leads to Success, else Depression.
• Module 4: How to keep your self Healthy.
• Module 5: How to keep cordial relations with family, friends & at workplace.
• Module 6: How to be happy, joyful & celebration in life through meditation.

Please visit  Conquer The Success Training for more details about the training.

We also provide TRAINING, COUNSELING and BEHAVIOR THERAPIES. You may visit the respective web pages for more details.

Should you have any queries, please join our Discussion Forum and post your queries there. We shall take them up.

We invite you to attend Conquer The Success Training. I can assure you that these 6 days will transform your life and take it to new heights of Success & Happiness.

Wish you a life full of Success & Happiness.

Stay connected,

With best regards,

Dr. Pankaj Gupta

CEO, Conquer The Success

99537 99435

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